- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
Ok, after reading many many maaaaaaany posts in regards to open bars, I want to add my 2 cents – for what its worth.
I will NOT be having an open bar. for quite a few reasons.
1) I have quite a large family filled with retarded drunks. I do not want to sit back and watch them get stupid drunk and be those people at weddings who get kicked out.
2) In my area its very common to have cash bars before an open bar
3) At all the open bars I have been to, it ends up being such a waste I think. People will go get a drink, set it down then get a new one ‘just cause’ they can – they don’t have to pay for it!
4) my wedding is being held in a venue with a couple million dollars worth of art, and I dont want alcohol to be a factor if anything gets damaged!
I do agree my guests should be treated, and no I would never ask my guests to bring their own drinks to my house, but this is something I feel strongly about.
I will be supplying my guests with wine and champagne all night, and of course they get their lovely delicious meals. The cash bar will be a $2 bar so I dont think that is too much out of their pockets and will keep the guests consious of how much they’re spending/drinking.
My wedding is on a higher budget (when its all said and done I believe it will be almost $55k) but I wanted to spend money elsewhere rather than drinks. (the main cost was my venue which was about $30k) supplying my guests with drinks didnt seem to be on the top of the list for me when planning my wedding.
I feel I am doing other little things for my guests to accomodate them, parking is paid for (which is a big cost for having a wedding downtown) wine/meals will be supplied, I will have 2 babysitters watching the kids that will be attending my wedding to let the parents be able to actually enjoy themselves.
I just really get offended when people call it TACKY to have an open bar, and they get OFFENDED when they go to a wedding and have to pay for drinks. They invited you to be there with them on their special day, should you feel honored rather than appaled at something so miniscule?
It just makes me sad when all I read is people getting so upset over this whole peope not having an open bar and having to pay money as guests. I feel like I am doing such a horrible thing after reading all the posts but ultimatly I know I am not. I just dont want to feel like a bad person because I am making my guests pay $2 a drink and having to have a good time without FREE alcohol!