(Closed) Open bar rules….

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@xenacick: No no! Having a tip jar, especially for yourself, is SUPER T-word. If you want to limit the cost, why not just have the bar close early?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yeah, I think that would be <insert T-word.>

ETA: I mean, what if I were one of your guests and I found out about that? I would be like WTF!?!?!?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Please don’t do that. More than tacky, it’s sneaky.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Since the bar’s tip is already in the contract, I’m assuming you’ve paid that upfront.

So you wouldn’t be actually using the “tip jar” money, for the tip?  You’d be using that to recoup costs of the drinks?

That seems pretty sketchy to me.  

If you want your guests to pay for their drinks, then have a cash or “toonie” (maybe a dollar bar) for the reception.   

 

 

Post # 6
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5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

waiiiiiiiit a second. they’d be tipping you? why would they tip you? 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

If I ever found out a friend of mine did this I would be piiiissed. You are basically lying to your friends and family. Not OK.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No go.

Maybe do a toonie bar to cover some of the cost. Or have the bar open during dinner and toasts then do a cash bar after that.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with the others, unacceptable.  And honestly, if there were a tip jar and I were the bartender, I’d be taking that tip for myself (in addition to the tip he’s already getting from you).

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Think about it this way..these people are your friends and family. Not strangers who youre buying drinks for. Theyre watching you and your fiance get married for petes sake, and you should WANT to treat them well by buying them a beverage…not trying to weasel a few measly dollars from them. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@xenacick: No. Consider cutting back somewhere else to be able to afford the bar..I think having any sort of sign out like that would def. rub me the wrong way if I was a guest. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think that is worse than lying to your guests, honestly. In no way, shape or form can you expect guests to pay for their drinks in this manner. If you wanted a cash bar, you should have gotten the liquor license in time. I think you are stuck here. The best thing you can do is shut the bar down an hour or so before the wedding comes to an end. i promise you, if you do it this way, you will pay in other ways – i.e. people getting more drinks intentionally or shorting any amount they were planning to give you as a gift.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I dunno… as a guest, I would rather have a sign/jar like that (and I’d chip in a dollar or two per drink) than have them run out after my second drink! BUT… I don’t see how you would have any idea how much money you will get from that jar in order to buy alcohol in advance!

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