Post # 1
So my Fiance and I are butting heads over the bar for our wedding. I work for a liquor company and have a monthly allowance to buy any of our products for myself. Obviously, I am going to be using this to stock up for our wedding. My company doesn’t own any beer and wine though, so we’ll be paying for that. But I’m able to get the vodka, tequila, rye, scotch, etc.
My Fiance wants a TOONIE BAR?!?!?! I told him not a chance. People know where I work and can deduce that we’re saving immensely on our liquor. He says he doesn’t think it’s tacky and we’re still buying beer & wine, but I can’t think of anything tackier than asking our guests to pay for our free booze lol. Even if it’s just two dollars a drink. We went to a wedding once with no cocktail hour (we were told to go into town for drinks and appies after the ceremony) and each guest got a couple drink tickets. I found it annoying, but he didn’t and won’t let go of the toonie bar idea. How would you feel as my guest? If you bees think this is tacky to the extreme I’m going to show him the thread lol.
FYI a toonie is the $2 coin, so he wants each drink to cost $2.
Post # 2
I dated a guy who worked for a brewery and had the same situation as you, he was budgeted a certain amount of beer every paydate. It would be very awkward to go to his wedding and pay for what he gets for free. I would probably give you the side eye…
But- hook a girl up? after the wedding of course. j/k
Post # 3
hhamilton : That’s kind of sketchy! I would be way too embarassed to charge guests for drinks period, but especially if I’m getting the liquor for free! No, no, no.
Post # 4
I’m from an area where toonie bars are pretty common, so as long as I’m notified beforehand that I’ll need to pay for my drinks, I don’t really mind. However, if I knew that the couple was getting most of their booze for free, I’d definitely be annoyed.
Post # 5
Free booze for your guests is the only way to go. A host should never make a guest pay for anything.
If you invited some friends over for dinner, you woudn’t make them pay for food and drink. Same thing applies to your wedding.
Post # 6
Yeah, no. You’re right that your guests will know you got a discount on your liquor and will think it’s tacky/insulting that you’re charging. Your Fiance should let this one go.
Post # 7
My fi is the same lol. However that was a hill to die on for me. Literally my only non-negotiable. Stay strong!
Post # 8
FantasticFawn : Agreed 100%. Including the “Yeah, no” that came out of my mouth upon reading… Haha 🙂
Post # 9
I’m confused….are you asking them to pay for your “free booze” meaning you are getting it free yet are going to charge them to make a profit?
Post # 10
I’m in the camp that says guests should not ever have to open their wallet at a wedding, so this would never fly for me.
I know toonie bars are not uncommon in some areas, but I would serve what I could afford to buy.
In your specific case, charging for liquor your guests know you did not pay for, would be offensive.
Post # 11
I had a feeling you guys would be in agreement with me! I’ll be showing him your responses for sure, maybe he just needs to hear it from other people.
Post # 12
chocolateplease : fantastic wording, I just told Fiance exactly what you said and I think he finally gets it.
trust me, he is normally an intelligent person haha.
Post # 13
hhamilton : i’m in the open bar camp. if you can’t afford/choose not to provide a full bar, that’s fine, but whatver you DO provide should be free. your guests shoudln’t have to pull out their wallets.
Post # 14
I’m sure you know most of this working for a liquor company but just in case you don’t… In BC if you’re hosting a bar for a private event at a residence, you’re not allowed to charge for liquor (although I’m sure it’s not heavily regulated) as you you don’t need a liquor license for the event/the police told us they don’t issue them for those type of events. If you are going to charge, you will need a license for insurance purposes – which is a bit of a hassle for the few hundred bucks you’d get from a toonie bar.