(Closed) Open bar vs. toonie bar

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I dated a guy who worked for a brewery and had the same situation as you, he was budgeted a certain amount of beer every paydate. It would be very awkward to go to his wedding and pay for what he gets for free. I would probably give you the side eye…

But- hook a girl up? after the wedding of course. j/k wink

Post # 3
407 posts
Helper bee

hhamilton :  That’s kind of sketchy! I would be way too embarassed to charge guests for drinks period, but especially if I’m getting the liquor for free! No, no, no.

Post # 4
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I’m from an area where toonie bars are pretty common, so as long as I’m notified beforehand that I’ll need to pay for my drinks, I don’t really mind. However, if I knew that the couple was getting most of their booze for free, I’d definitely be annoyed.

Post # 5
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Free booze for your guests is the only way to go. A host should never make a guest pay for anything.

If you invited some friends over for dinner, you woudn’t make them pay for food and drink. Same thing applies to your wedding.

Post # 6
3611 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, no. You’re right that your guests will know you got a discount on your liquor and will think it’s tacky/insulting that you’re charging. Your Fiance should let this one go.

Post # 7
3332 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My fi is the same lol. However that was a hill to die on for me. Literally my only non-negotiable. Stay strong! 

Post # 8
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

FantasticFawn :  Agreed 100%. Including the “Yeah, no” that came out of my mouth upon reading… Haha 🙂

Post # 9
1687 posts
Bumble bee

I’m confused….are you asking them to pay for your “free booze” meaning you are getting it free yet are going to charge them to make a profit?

Post # 10
47256 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m in the camp that says guests should not ever have to open their wallet at a wedding, so this would never fly for me.

I know toonie bars are not uncommon in some areas, but I would serve what I could afford to buy.

In your specific case, charging for liquor your guests know you did not pay for, would be offensive.

Post # 13
2506 posts
Sugar bee

hhamilton :  i’m in the open bar camp. if you can’t afford/choose not to provide a full bar, that’s fine, but whatver you DO provide should be free. your guests shoudln’t have to pull out their wallets.

Post # 14
670 posts
Busy bee

I’m sure you know most of this working for a liquor company but just in case you don’t… In BC if you’re hosting a bar for a private event at a residence, you’re not allowed to charge for liquor (although I’m sure it’s not heavily regulated) as you you don’t need a liquor license for the event/the police told us they don’t issue them for those type of events. If you are going to charge, you will need a license for insurance purposes – which is a bit of a hassle for the few hundred bucks you’d get from a toonie bar.

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