(Closed) Open bar/Cash Bar?? i really need your help pretty please Bee's

posted 8 years ago in Money
  • poll: half cash bar/open bar?

    $500.00 open bar is fine as long as you dont make your guest pay for the soda




    no less then a $1,000

    what no champaine toast???????? (Please comment )

  • Post # 17
    13903 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I personally think you should have a full open bar for as long as you possibly can.  In my circles, cash bars are unacceptable.

    Post # 18
    35 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @miss-stacie-2013:  I don’t think it’s rude to have an open bar for your parents and bridal party, it’s not like your MC is going to announce that there is an open bar for only certain people. I think if you do it on the D/L you’re good.

    Open bars are not the norm where we’re from (we’ve never been to a wedding with an open bar, only table wine – and even then only one wedding had table wine), so my view might be a little more relaxed compared to some regions where people expect to get schmamered for free.

    Post # 21
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    In my circle open bar is the only way to go.  Having a cash bar is considered rude.  From the looks of it though you are not having an open bar but a consumption bar which can actually cost more than a truely open bar with a flat fee.

    Post # 23
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I agree with the other posters.  I don’t think you should have a dollar amount cut-off because your guests won’t know why one minute their drink was free, then it cost them $$$ later on.  Either limit the choices or limit the events.

    Post # 24
    1966 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @oneofthesethings:   +10

    Personally I wouldn’t go the cash bar route.  If I didn’t have the funds I would have a soda, wine and beer bar ans maybe a signature cocktail to keep the cost down. Seems rude to invite family and friends to celebrate your marriage and then ask them to spend money. 

    Post # 26
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    $3.00 is an awesome price. Just limit it to beer, wine, and well! People can live without their Black Label and Grey Goose 🙂

    Post # 27
    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’m going to be honest…Many of the bees who feel a cash bar is “so rude” and “unacceptable” make it seem like a bride should just not have a wedding if they cannot provide for their entire guest list to get drunk.

    I am paying for my wedding on my own and therefore have a very limited budget. As a result, it might be a cash bar or a partial cash bar. I doubt my guests would like the no alcohol, so cash bar/partial cash bar it is. I don’t expect a gift from anyone, I am feeding them and asking them to be with me and my Fiance on one of the most important days of our lives. I think that’s enough for those I hold dear and want to have with me to celebrate my wedding. If a guest has such a huge problem with a cash bar that it ruins my wedding for them then they probably aren’t someone I want to have there with me anyway.

    I like the table wine idea and maybe look into buying a few kegs of beer. Once those are empty then the guests can pay for their own drinks. Definitely pay for soda/juice though

    Post # 29
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011


    The reason it’s rude is because you’re the host, and you should pay for whatever’s offered. That is whatever YOU can afford – it’s not about having a lot of money, it’s about hosting. It’s about not shaming the person who would like a drink but can’t afford it while others around him can. Would you offer lobster to those who could pay up and hamburger helper to everyone else? No of course not, because lobster is totally unnecessary.

    Post # 30
    11528 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Based on what you said, it doesn’t sound as if there would be that many people who would be disappointed if you had no alcohol at all at your reception.  Have you considered hosting an open bar of only non-alcoholic beverages? 

    My DH and I had an open, non-alcoholic bar that included sodas, a variety of juices, and iced tea. 

    Post # 31
    3716 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @HisNightOwl2014:  We are in a similar boat– our guests are at that age where they just don’t drink that much (pregnancy/nursing, driving to their house in the suburbs, ect) and we are having kids at the wedding. We decided to do a consumption bar with a cap. Once that cap is reached, the bar will shut down. If it is during cocktail hour, so be it. If we don’t hit the limit, that is awesome. For me it is a matter of cost– it just isn’t reasonable to pay for the open bar and I would rather no bar than a cash bar for whatever time is remaining.

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