Post # 1
So, we missed the opportunity to do a life status change because both our employers have a 30 day rule, and apparently we’re not efficient enough to get married, have a honeymoon, recover from said honeymoon, get back to work, catch up on loose ends that you’ve back burnered during wedding ramp up, change names with gov’t bureaucracies and then with our employers. Sooo…we waited until open enrollment.
I just got done declining my benefits and switching to my husbands benefits and I literally cried when it was all said and done. It was kind of one of those laughing at yourself while crying because you didn’t realize that you could be affected by something so seemingly unemotional. But it was a huge realization that I was no longer my own unit. I was someone’s dependent, and it freaked me out a little. Funny enough, I would have not thought anything of him becoming my dependent if we chose to go with my benefits, but writing my name for the first time since I was my parent’s dependent in the dependent section of HR forms had a strange effect on me. I felt a tinge of loss for my independence but at the same time, now I feel another one of those changes that comes with being married.
So my question is this, has something seemingly unemotional thrown you for a loop?
Post # 3
I totally understand. I can’t let go of my bank account for this same reason. LOL!
Post # 4
aww, we’ve kept separate insurance for now, but he is helping me review my plan, since we hope to get pregnant soon!
I got really upset while researching my name changing options @ work, but not so much with thinking about my driver’s license.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Actually, I 100% relate to this post: my big moment of “I’m a grown-up!” was when I got my first health insurance card from my own employer after I finished school instead of being on my dad’s insurance as a dependent. Mr. Spaniel works for himself and doesn’t have a group plan I can join so I won’t go through this exact same thing, but I definitely understand how this can be a big moment and affect you emotionally.
Post # 6
Its funny that you say this because my open enrollment is due at the end of the month too and I got to thinking about my Flexible Spending for my Health Insurance. I was going to use the same amount, but a light came on and I said “Wait, I have to ask fi, because we’ll be married early next year, and I might need to change the amount because hopefully I won’t need (BC) prescriptions!!” I was laughing when I thought about it, so I was going to bring it up during dinner tonight!
Post # 7
Oh boy, I had a moment like that too, even just changing my tax status to married and seeing that when I look at my payroll. We’re putting him on my coverage as a dependent and it feels really weird from the other side too. I’m not my own unit – but instead he’s the dependent!
Post # 8
I think my moment was…wait, every single moment of everyday for the past week! =D Hehe…you’re not alone!