(Closed) Open gifts at day after brunch — traditional or show-offy?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not opening gifts and it is not a common thing here.  I will be the first to say that watching someone open gifts is probably the part of the showers that most women dread because it is b-o-r-i-n-g.  Why waste time that you could spend catching up with loved ones opening gifts?  My advice is to skip it. 

For my sister’s baby shower and probably for my own bridal shower we did not have a big sit down and open gifts.  We displayed the gifts on a table with the name of the giver one them.  My sis did open the gift in front of the couple(it was a green party so we suggested no adornment i.e. wrapping paper) so they got their fix of her oohing and aahing but we got so many complements and thanks for NOT opening gifts in front of everyone.   

Post # 4
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had a day after brunch where we spent part of the time opening our gifts.  We loved it (and many guests spoke highly of it afterwards as well).  It also gave us the opportunity to thank people for their gifts in person (in addition to the thank you card we sent later).  Many of our extended family we are only able to see every couple of years so it was great to have the extra time with everyone and have the more personal opportunity to show our appreciation.

I wouldn’t say it is traditional or common though.

Post # 5
3373 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We opened gifts the day after in front of BMs and our parents. It was nice and I don’t think anyone thought I was bragging. Surely everyone knows you get presents at a wedding? We only opened like 10 gifts. Most everyone else had sent theirs months before the wedding and they’d already been opened.

Post # 6
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d rather just eat brunch and hang out WITHOUT opening gifts. Been to a lot of next day brunches and have not seen this. Personal preference and regional tradition I guess.

Post # 7
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are having a day after brunch and are planning on opening whatever gifts we get then.

Post # 8
2583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is pretty common around here, most of my relatives do some version of this. Some of them have an immediate family and wedding party only brunch and gift opening. Some invite everyone for both. Especially if there are enough people there that it becomes “optional,” where there is more to do (like mingle and chat) than just watch gifts, then I don’t think it’s a big deal.

That said, I hate opening gifts in front of people- even when I’m excited about a gift it doesn’t always show in my face, and I hate opening up an ugly/unwanted/duplicate gift and then feeling awkward about it. So we probably will open gifts privately.


Post # 9
1278 posts
Bumble bee

It is very common in the midwest, everyone gets together at the couple’s house (or their parent’s house) and they serve up some brunch food and mingle.  I don’t see it as show-offy, but that could be because I’ve been to a few of these in the past.  The ones I’ve been to were mostly immediate family in attendance.  With this said, I’m not really a big fan of it, because like most of you, the public gift opening is the most boring part of showers. 

Post # 10
821 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We are doing a day after bbq lunch and will be opening gifts there but i’m not looking forward to it!  

I guess especially here in my circle of friends and family it is the thing to do and we already did it for our engagement presents the day after our enagagement party (although that was only close family watching) and I had to do it last weekend for my bachelerette party and honestly it makes me feel so awkward! 

Post # 11
5117 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re skipping the gift opening. I know some folks may be disappointed by this, since it’s really common in this area, but I’m not comfortable opening the gifts in front of everyone. It could take forever (we’ve got an est. 300-400+ guests), and I’d feel awkward opening duplicate gifts in front of everyone (Aunt Mary knows you got 2 other toasters like the one she gave you).

Our hotel has a brunch offered in the morning, so if guests want to come buy some breakfast and mingle, that’s cool. We plan to send the gifts over to Mr.ND’s parents’ home when the reception starts so they’re stored safely out of the way until we get back from our honeymoon and just spend the morning chatting with our guests before we leave.

Post # 12
5493 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ve never seen this and never heard of anyone I know doing this.  Maybe because around here people don’t get too many boxed gifts at the wedding.  We got exactly 1 boxed gift at the wedding.  All other tangible gifts were sent to our house ahead of time, (and opened as they came in).  All the gifts we received at the wedding were cash.  So I guess it’s just not possible to do a gift opening the day after.

I don’t necessarily see this as showy, just boring.  As a guest I would have absolutely no interest in watching a gift opening.

Post # 14
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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@hecallsmelove: Agreed. We are having a day after family dinner and our plan is to NOT open gifts but rather just focus on the time with family.

I look forward to the two of us opening gifts together, alone.

Post # 15
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Never heard of this tradition!

The wedding was so tiring and stressful, that the next day sleeping and enjoying each other was all we wanted to do. Opening gifts and putting on faces for people would not be my idea of fun. If people are still in town, a dinner or gathering would be nice though! We wen’t out to eat with some of our guests before they left town the next day.

Post # 16
741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m having a brunch too…and personally I wouldn’t want to open my gifts during. I’d rather spend time with my guests.

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