(Closed) do you open gifts sent to house?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@EleanorRigby: Don’t worry! I opened the first one sent to my house, shower is this weekend.  Who cares!!! At first I thought I should wait, but mom was like, open it!

Post # 5
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ve never even heard of that …. so yea, I didn’t do it.

Would make for more stuff to open at the shower I guess. If you’re into that or if you aren’t having a big shower.

Post # 7
722 posts
Busy bee

You should open them now and write thank you notes right away. Don’t bring them to the shower. For the most part, people send wedding gifts and bring shower gifts to the event.

Post # 8
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve been opening and sending thank yous as we receive things – I’m sure there will be enough stuff at the shower to deal with, and if those guests are there that have sent things, I’ll just thank them there as well.


Post # 9
1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve been opening as I receive them and sending a thank you note immediately. I’m not going to bring them to the shower, but if the person that sent the gift comes to the shower I’m going to say what they sent and thank them out loud when I’m done opening the rest of the gifts.

Post # 10
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have been opening as they show up- then sending my thank you right after- saves time for after!

Post # 11
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I plan on opening as I receive them. Gift opening at showers takes long enough as it is, no need to make it even longer with gifts from people that aren’t even in attendance!

Post # 12
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d wait on the rest – but who cares about the ones you already openened.  make sure to doubly thank those people at the shower.  BUT if those gifts are just wedding gifts, NOT shower gifts then definitely open them!  That’s my opinion – others are against opening gifts before the wedding – I’m for it, it’s so fun!

Post # 14
3068 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Nope, we are waiting until after the wedding. 🙂

Post # 15
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve been opening them as they show up as well!

I can’t help it!

Post # 16
9 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should always open the gifts as they come and send thank-yous right away! It makes your life way easier to send the thank yous as you go, and also lets the other person know that their gift made it okay!

Generally, gifts you receive in the mail will be wedding gifts. I got a *couple* of shower gifts from people who couldn’t make it to the shower (in the mail), but the cards said “Sorry we can’t make it to your shower,” etc. Either way, it doesn’t make sense to take those gifts to the shower if they won’t even be there to watch you open! There will be plenty of other gifts there, people aren’t gonna care about gifts from guests that aren’t in attendance.


In terms of wedding vs. shower gifts, yes generally people mail wedding gifts, and they will bring shower gifts to the shower. At the end of the day though, if you get it right before the shower and aren’t sure which it is for… it doesn’t really matter! Just thank them for the generous gift, and you’ll find out soon enough whether they’re getting you an additional gift or not… but it’s not like you have to say “Thanks for the shower gift” in your thank-you note. Just say thanks so much for the generous gift, Mr. X and I can’t wait to use our new china, we are so excited to share our special day with you!” You don’t have to be too specific if you’re not sure what it’s for.

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