Open House Engagement Party???

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That sounds like a fun and cool twist on engagement parties! The only suggestion I have is to extend the time frame by an hour or 2 because 3-5 sounds like a small window.

Post # 3
12165 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

kayyy727:  friends of mine did this and it was great.  People were invited, it was relaxed and informal, people who wanted to stayed the whole time, some people stopped in, said hi, congrats, and left.  I would much prefer that to a formal party.

Post # 4
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Sounds like a great idea. I think i’d extend/change the time though… if you want people to come and go and not all be there at once. 3-5 is only 2 hours so i could see most people coming all at once and staying the whole amount of time. (Which wouldn’t be good for anxiety!) 

I also think a wine/cheese party is better suited for later in the evening. Just my personal opinion. I’d probably plan it for 6-10? 

Post # 6
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

I think 2-6 has potential. People could come for appetizers before they go out for dinner.

Post # 7
6912 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

kayyy727:  You can certainly do that if it sounds like fun, but engagement parties are totally 100% optional. I don’t actually even know anyone who’s had one. Maybe they’re more popular with younger people? If this will cause anxiety or you just don’t want to deal with an engagement party, nobody will look at you weird if you skip it.

Post # 11
2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

kayyy727:  Maybe you can hit the wine to stay relaxed through your event 😉 2-6 seems a little early for a wine and cheese event. Maybe that early you could do iced tea/lemonade and finger foods with wine as an option?

Post # 13
4 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015

We are having an Open House Engagement party next month!

I haven’t seen invitations (FMIL made and ordered them since it’ll be at her house, wait, let me clarify I picked the invitation I wanted, but she put in all the info since they already threw one for FSIL) but I’m assuming it’ll be like my FSIL’s engagement party from last August which was 3pm to whenever, come by for drinks and *heavy appetizers and celebrate. Super casual and friendly, nice to mingle the families and friends for the day!

Post # 15
4062 posts
Honey bee

kayyy727:  Yep, 100% optional. I don’t think I’ve ever gone to one. I didn’t have one, my daughters didn’t have one. We’re in the suburbs of a major, east coast city and had large, formal, evening weddings, large bridal showers in restaurants, etc., but no engagement parties.

“the biggest issue is that we have had several family members pestering us about when our engament party will be. Since we are having a longer engagement they tend to expect a party. I know its really up to us in the end but when all your family members and future family members are ganging up on you you tend to cave.”             

No, just don’t let them. If you start letting them pester and gang up on you now, it will continue with your bridal shower, bachelorette, and wedding. I heard so many unsolicited suggestions, over the course of 2 weddings, within 2 years, I was ready for the funny farm – or commit bodily harm, on those giving all the suggestions. Stand up for what you’re comfortable with. 

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