(Closed) Open marriages?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t even understand why you would get married if you want an open marriage.

Post # 4
Member
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MissAsB I don’t understand either but I do know a few people who are engaged and participate in swinging. Is that the same thing?

Post # 5
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7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Most definitely not!! I don’t see what the point of gettign married would be. IMO you might as well stay single.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

it’s definitely not for me and i would NEVER consider it.  nor do i really understand it.  but my attitude towards pretty much everything is that as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone, what two consenting adults do, is their business.

Post # 8
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@ToasterCat: I think swinging is a little different because it’s with certain people but I think an open marriage is just anyone that you find interesting (and you don’t have to do things with your partner around).

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m with you on the whatever floats your boat.  For us, Too Much Information but oh well, we’ve had company but going off with someone else without your partner wouldn’t fly. 

And why is it that we’ll say Too Much Information (meaning, I really shouldn’t say this…) and then go ahead and say it any way.  It’s like “with all due respect…”  🙂

Post # 11
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5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I wanted to add that I have an ex boyfriend who is now married, with two kids and they have an open marriage.  They both love each other very much and are 100% committed to each other, their relationship and their children.  But they are of the mind that humans beings are not meant to be sexually monogamous and that one person can’t satisfy all our physical needs. It seems to work for them so I guess that’s all that matters, (regardless of anyone else’s opinion on the matter). 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Definitely NOT for me and I don’t understand it at all.

However, I have heard of some couple that are very much in love, and were until the husband died. Well on the man’s death bed, they told their adult children that they had been having “date night” once a week throughout their marriage, but the date was with other prople. They loved each other but the sexual chemistry wasn’t there. So they fulfilled that elsewhere, but were happy together all those years.

So I guess it can happen, with lots of self confidence, trust in your love and relationship……… but NOT for me!!!

Post # 13
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m in the “whatever floats your boat” camp. If it isn’t harming anyone then by all means, do what you want!

Not for me though.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The very idea makes me feel physically ill. I know two (completely unrelated) people who told me or my husband that they had engaged in those kinds of activities and all parties are now divorced (3 divorces total). Also those people are no longer in our circle of friends, because my husband and I agree not to maintain friendships with people whose lack of boundaries could endanger our marriage.

Post # 16
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club

This is so interesting.

An Open Marriage sounds like it would be really difficult to have. I mean, wouldn’t trust issues and stuff come up?

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