Post # 1
The recent post about domestic discipline got me to thinking about other “alternative” relationships.
Ladies what are your views on open marriage and/or swinging? I’m talking everything from a committed poly amorous relationship with another couple to all out…..let’s say a swinger’s club participating with on site “activity”.
Obviously Save-The-Date Cards are a huge concern…..but what about the emotional aspect of it? I don’t think I could ever do it……but I would love to hear differing views.
Post # 3
I couldn’t do it. I’m too jealous when it comes to things like that and I am very open minded.
I know Will Smith and Jada Pickett Smith have a marriage like that and it seems to work for them. They aren’t divorced so I would call that a success. ^_^
I think I would worry about-
Post # 4
@Miss Tattoo: The fantasy aspect IS hot…… but I totally agree with you. For all of the reasons you stated.
The reason I’m putting this out there is that Darling Husband were at a outdoor bar yesterday. There were two couples sitting next to us…..both couples had a different dynamic going on…but it was clear they were all on a “date” for the first time getting to know each other. Their conversation wasn’t very discreet. ~ lol.
Post # 6
No, I know myself and my husband well enough to know that neither one of us could do that. I know (or so I hear) that it does work if both partners want it and are comfortable with it, They have each other for the love, emotional connection, and the stability of a committed relationship…but are free to act on their attractions to others, without fear of hurting their partner, or damaging the relationship.
But not me. I can’t say that the idea even appeals to me. I just don’t have any interest in being intimate with anyone else. And the thought of my husband being intimate with another woman? It makes me nauseous to think about.
Post # 7
No. I wouldn’t get married if I wanted to do that.
Post # 8
No way, not for us! The idea of it just seems so awkward to me and Fiance…
Post # 9
At this point we are not fully into a lifestyle like that, but we are definitely open to it.
Post # 10
I actually know couples that are like this and from the outside, they look like a normal happy married couple. They have been married 20 years and have been swinging for about 7.
I think it also helps that they are both from another country and weren’t raised religious. Sometimes I think Americans are very prude about sex. I think we are raised to believe sex=love and that’s it. Not sex=human desire.
I don’t know, it would be interesting to hear other countries views on it. Especially Europe. When we went after high school, it seems like the Europeans have a WHOLE different meaning of sex than Americans do and it’s interesting to know why when you start really thinking about it.
Post # 11
Ima have to give this a HELL NO.
Post # 12
I know some swingers and it works for them. I couldn’t because I don’t like to share. (As a little girl, my parents bought 2 of things so my sister and I wouldn’t have to share.LOL)
If I were single, that’d be different.
Post # 13
Trust me, I love sex and so does my Fiance and we love fantasies…but HELL TO THE NO!
If it works for you, wahooo!!! It simply wouldn’t work for us.
Post # 14
I think there’s absolutely no problem with it if both persons are consenting adults.
However, I personally couldn’t do it. I am solidly monogamous, and so is FH.
Post # 15
@Miss Tattoo: I think a lot of it is how we think about sex in our culture.
Personally, I would be 100% ok with this sort of arrangement. I’ve even talked to my fiance about my interest in it. It’s not for him, and I would choose him over an open/swinging relationship any day. But I can’t say it doesn’t appeal to me… I think part of it may be that I seem to have a really different attitude towards sex than a lot of people. To me, it’s not such a big deal… I don’t have sex with people I don’t like or respect, and I don’t sneak around, but sex is not some great sacred act to me.
Post # 16
I’ve suggested this to Fiance several times. I would jump all over it if I could!