Post # 1
We will have 60-70 close friends and family at our wedding; no wedding party, though our parents will probably say a few words during the ceremony.
We’d love to have toasts during the reception but are a little uncertain as to how to navigate this. If we have an open mic, is there an issue of it getting out of control? We’re not concerned about people telling drunken, embarrassing stories, but we’re wondering about what toast duration guests want to hear and the potential for rambling, disorganized toasts.
Another option is to ask a couple of close friends to lead with short, prepared speeches and then open the mic to others. Thoughts?
Anyone have experience with this?
Post # 3
Here’s the hard truth. People don’t really like speeches. Seriously.
And people dislike long, never-ending tributes that go on for days….
I would pick a couple of people, maybe a few, to say some words and leave it at that.
Post # 4
I’d do that at the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 5
I’ve never been to an open-mic reception for speeches. I think it does open itself for disorganization, possible lulls, and inappropriate behavior. Like the above poster said, ask a few people to see if they’re interested. If not, can your parents give a different speech at the reception? Or move their few words to the reception, instead, if you want speeches at the reception.
Post # 6
@philodendron: I think it’s a cute idea. Leading with some short, prepared speeches ought to help set the tone for other toasts – it will show guests the length you expect. You might want spread the word among your guests now, so that those who will want to make a toast can go ahead and prepare something – maybe ask your Maid/Matron of Honor or parents to get the word out. That might help them avoid rambling when it’s their turn!