Post # 32
What about open bar during cocktail hour, and then cash bar after that? Ive been to a lot of weddings like this.
We are doing open bar all night, but ALL our guests will be traveling for our wedding. We didnt want to ask them pay for drinks on top of flights, hotels, etc.
Post # 33
Wow. I had no idea that some venues made you pay per drink for your open bar! That is pretty crazy!
Our venue charges a flat a rate- $5700 for all of our food and open beer/wine or $7200 for all of our food and open bar. I wonder if that works our better for us or if it ends up costing us more in the end?
Post # 34
(please don’t do open bar for only bridal party!)
Post # 35
I like flat rates. You factor in the stress costs (going over and being shocked lol)
Post # 36
Your response was unnessesary as you don’t know what our wedding entails or our financial situation! I’m happy for you that you can do such things!
Post # 37
We went to a staff function for my FI’s work on the weekend. They had both an open bar and an open ice cream bar.
I was absolutely disgusted by the amount of waste. People would get a full dish of ice cream, then leave it to melt. Similar to drinks. Why bother looking for that double rye and coke you put down, when you can just go get another?
For that reason alone, I’m having a cash bar. ($1-$2/drink)
Post # 38
We can’t–it’s why we’re eloping or waiting until we can. I would rather not have a wedding at all if we cannot afford to take care of our guests the way that we should. If you like, you and your Fiance can come over to ours and we can discuss this over dinner. We’re having wine with dinner but I’ll have to charge you $2 a glass. Don’t forget, it’s appropriate to bring the host a small gift when you go over for dinner.
Post # 39
haha yea we live in a very small town they cant charge too much 😉
Post # 40
I’m agreeing with littlemissyvintage, I’m sorry. That’s unnecessary, there’s a better way to make your point.
Celebrating the marriage is important. Alcohol – or even food – is not. Just like bringing a gift is not important or required on the part of the guest.
Post # 41
I agree you in that I love open bar. But I don’t agree that a cash bar is rude. I think your analogy is off. If you go to a dinner party, you will likely be served water, but you may not be served wine. Now at a dinner party, I would be bummed but whatever. At a wedding I would be super bummed and be able to pay for a drink or two if I wanted rather than have to attend a dry wedding.
Post # 42
We had 180 guests and also provided an open bar for a cocktail hour and during the reeption. We hired a bartender (who was awesome!!!) and we provided the keg beer, wine & some apple cider jello shots for fun 🙂 Everyone was very respectful of the event and themselves and noone got ‘wasted’ but it did help everyone loosen up 🙂 If you need a bartender reccomendation, let me know!
Post # 43
Here is what we did and it worked awesome. Everyone was happy and had no complaints.
We had wine on the tables and then the extra that was behind the bar was free. Other than that it was a $2 bar. It went well. People could drink and it didn’t cost them a tonne. Enough tickets were sold that basically covered the cost. Non alcoholic drinks were also free (the mix cost about $150).
This is going to sound strange but the groomsmen got their drink tickets free but the bridesmaids did not. Reason being the girls did not have to spend a $.01 on being in the wedding wereas the guys did. It worked. There were a couple remarks made by the girls to me but I just ignored them.
Basically you have to do what you feels best, you know your guests. I think that if you have a limited budget then cap it at a certain amount. With drinks that cheap it should go far!
Post # 44
I’m doing neither. With every plate it includes water, iced tea/hot tea, coffee, lemonade, and pop. I’m having ONE hour open bar for cocktail hour. Following that for the reception I’m having a tally bar. That means I pay per alcoholic beverage. I can also set an allowance of whatever I want like $1500. I am able to say no drinks $10 or more or no top shelf liquors. I spoke to the wedding coordinator at the venue and she told me that some brides like to have a price set, so that they know what it costs beforehand, which is why they do open bars. Tally bars, however are more cost efficient. Most of my FI’s family doesn’t drink alcohol, so I would be paying $30-40 per person to not drink one alcoholic beverage. Some of my family does not even drink $40 worth of alcohol each. After the $1500 is spent I have the option of raising the allowance, doing an open bar, or a cash bar. I decided once the allowance is met I will turn it into a cash bar. The reception is only until 10pm and down the street there are 15 bars open til 2am that they can venture to afterwards
Post # 45
I wish I could do open bar for all 5 hours ( actually my reception is gonna be 7 hours so i would do 6 hours max) but at 228 ppl and $26 a head that is just not gonna happen. We have paid for 2 hours and after that i dont trust to do a tally. how do i really know when the tally is really up or if they just tell me yeah youve spent it already when i really havnt. So we are gonna buy rounds of drinks for whomever would like. It will be way less expensive than $26 a head for another hour. I know people say we will be too busy but we INSIST on buying others drinks. Having an open bar was really important to us but with our guest list it came down to a) no reception b) do cash bar most of the night
One place quoted me $7000 for ONE HOUR of liquor. I left pissed. i was outraged about venues taking advantage of us poor weddng folk!
Thankfully the last weddings we went to were cash bar after an hour. i felt better about our decision.
oh and our wedding gifts will be flasks filled with gm and bm fav liquor;)
Post # 46
the wedding coordinator is going to come over and tell us when we have reached our $1500 and then we decide from there if we want to raise it or do a cash bar. I trust my venue actually, for some reason.