Post # 1
I have NO idea what to do. Our budget is really tight and we are unsure how to handle the bar situation.
I have my ceremony from 4-430. Cocktail hour from 5-6, and then the reception at 6pm.
(from 430-5 our guests will end up hanging out outside after the ceremony most likely to have a cigarette, catch up, grab some pictures, and eventually make their way inside to the hall. Fiance and I will already be in the bridal room touching up my makeup and trying to breathe, we just got married! lol)
But my problem is is that I have a TON of…well…alcohol loving friends, and I know will take full advantage of the open bar mainly to get trashed which I DONT want. But during cocktail hour, whats the point of having a cocktail hour…without cocktails?
The hall does make a selection of drinks:
$85 – $95 per gallon
Pre-Mixed Cocktails by the gallon, serves approximately 30 guests. Margaritas, Bloody Marys, Daiquiris, Champagne Mimosas, Screwdrivers, Seabreazes, Manhattans, Martinis or Cosmos.
Please add 6.25% tax and 18% gratuity to above items.
HELP. PLEASE lol
Post # 3
Can you afford to do a limited open bar, with just beer and wine?
Post # 4
Our time frame is almost exactly the same. We were able to select providing the alcholol ourselves and are only doing beer and wine. We are still considering one special drink for cocktail hour but haven’t decided.
We don’t have to pay the tax or gratuity for this either because we’re providing it…
Check to see if you could provide your own?
Post # 5
Truthfully, we are probably doing a cash bar throughout. The other weddings in my FI’s family has been the same, and I am the first in my family to get married. Everyone knows we are paying for the wedding ourselves, and understand we cannot afford the open bar. We are thinking about maybe doing one signature beer and one wine. My colors are blue and white, so we were thinking a blu moon for beer and some white wine. We could pay by consumption. Not sure yet. It all depends what we can afford. some say it is bad etiquette, but I’m sorry, I am not going into dept so that my friends and family can get drunk
Post # 6
I’m going to try to offer subsidized beer & wine (I’m thinking of 2$, with other cocktails available for full cost).
I’m (hopefully) setting aside about 800$ from our catering costs by choosing a less expensive meal option. We’ll see though. If not, cash bar all the way. Sorry folks.
Post # 7
No I agree, why should I go broke because my friends want to get wasted? No way. We are paying for everything alone, and can barely afford half of the things we want to do. Cash bar might be the best way to go. thanks bees!
Post # 8
I just hesitate with a cash bar because of the idea that money is being exchanged at a wedding, but where we live, nobody has cash bars and I do understand that it is more normal in other cities.
Perhaps you could pay for the cocktail hour or do a $2.00/drink bar? I know your guests will appreciate it when they see that there has been an effort on your behalf to pay for some of the costs.
Post # 9
We’re having a “cocktail hour” without cocktails! Our small budget + FHs family = no alcohol. If you’re really against a cash bar, maybe you can do a limited bar – just beer and wine and only have it open for part of the reception, not the entire reception. It should save you a ton of money!
Post # 10
I just posted this in another thread but i’ll post it here for you too, maybe it can help.
This is what we’re doing:
We’re not rich so we’re buying all the drinks ourselves from the store and then i got my friend to bartend at the venue. Our guests will get wine with their food (this will probably be about 3-4 glasses per person) and then after dinner there is the coffe and something (baileys or cognac) to go along with the cakes.
For the party (reception) we’re having a very cheap cash bar, both to keep the big drinkers from getting to wasted and so that we won’t be stuck with a gigantic bill…
All our guest understand that we can’t afford to keep them with alcohol all night. (we’re having a very small wedding with just closest family and a few of our closest friends)
Hope you figure it out! Good luck!
PS: for the cocktail hour we’re just serving champagne because we have a few activities for our guest so they won’t really have time to just sit and drink.
Post # 11
All I know is that those pre-mixed cocktail gallons do not sound like a good deal. You can probably eke out 10-12 reasonably sized drinks for a gallon. At that price you are paying cocktail lounge type prices. For drinks that are probably going to be hella weak or super syrup sacchariney.
Post # 12
I completely understand your situation, I too have large number of friends would like to imbibe. We cut down costs with serving non-alcoholic drinks during the cocktail hour (such as lemonades, iced teas, etc.) We are also doing a limited open bar with beer and wine and 1 signature mixed drink (old fashioneds, anyone?)