(Closed) Opening Gifts at Bridal Shower?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is such a good question because its something I wonder too!  So, I have no answer for you but I look forward to hearing what the other bee’s say.  I have no desire to open the gifts while everyone watches!  I’ve been the guest and it is boring.  Or, what if someone wasn’t able to afford much, then its just there for all to see, I don’t want anyone to be embarassed.  I’d much rather skip out.  Though, I’ve never been to a shower were this was avoided. 

Post # 4
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I know that at my cousins shower she did not open gifts and lots of the family were upset about it.  Especially my mom since the gift she bought was from her, me and my sister and our sister in law, who wasn’t able to attend since she lives out of state.  I think it really depends on your family.  Ask your mom what she would think if you didn’t open gifts.

Post # 5
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve never been to one where the bride didn’t open gifts. I think it’s expected, especially if you have older relatives there. It’s awkward, though. I hear you on that.

Post # 6
5762 posts
Bee Keeper

Sorry,but yes,it’s rude to not open the gifts while there and yes,people will be offended. I put a lot of time and thought into the gifts I give,and the most pleasure I get is from seeing their expressions.  For birthdays and holidays,how would you feel if the people you gave gifts to took them home and didn’t open them?

Post # 7
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

yes, its definitely expected to open gifts at a bridal shower. and the customary oooh and ahhh at each gift is expected…..no matter how gosh awful it is.  just an example for ya….i got this oh so lovely present from an elderly cousin…yes she was over 50 and i got this from her…but i still sent her that picture and a thank you card! lol


Post # 8
4485 posts
Honey bee

The point of a shower is that guests bring you gifts. Yes, you are expected to open them. Be prepared for many people to be offended if you don’t. If you don’t want to open them in front of anyone, tell the hostesses politely that you don’t want a shower.

Post # 9
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sigh, I dread opening gifts in front of everyone.  I’m quite monotone and truth be told, I’m quite reserved and unemotional (LOL, sooo robotic).  Now I have to figure out how to express my gratitude without appearing fake.

I’ve been to several showers where the bride took hours opening gifts and at some point, it’s like “enough already.”

Post # 10
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Marie Gabrielle

I had one shower where the bride alluded to NOT opening presents.  Thankfully, she changed her mind.  Even if the bride feels awkward, everyone else is just excited to see her open the presents they bought her.  No need to feel weird! 

Post # 11
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I had a HUGE miscellaneous shower and on the invitation the hostesses wrote “Please bring gifts unwrapped” and they used all the gifts to decorate the venue of the shower! It was a really cool mingling thing to walk around and look at my china settings and crockpot and such. Plus, I didn’t have to practice my “Oh my Gawd, I’m so excited about this fork!” face. 

Post # 13
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i tried to get out of opening gifts at our engagement party, but that didn’t work! everyone at the party kept asking “when are we opening gifts?” “is it time to open gifts yet?” so we finally gave in and opened them. everyone wants to know what everyone else got you, and they like to know your reaction when you open up their gift.

Post # 14
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think the whole point of a shower is to open gifts.  If you don’t want to open them, maybe you should call it something else?

Post # 15
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well, not only is it for just opening the gifts.  It’s also about the tradition of “breaking the ribbon”…or maybe that is just something we do here.  If you break a ribbon while opening the gift, that means that will be how many children you have.  Not to mention the moh assembles your bouquet with the bows for the walk down rehearsal.  But maybe not everyone does that?

Post # 16
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wendy, we do that here. I’m dreading it. 🙂

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