Post # 1
Did anyone NOT open gifts at their bridal shower? Last one I was at it took the bride two hours to open them all and everyone just sat and watched. One, it got really boring and two, I’m sure the bride got tired! I hate opening gifts in front of people, it’s so awkward. I can’t imagine people wanting to watch me open gifts for any length of time. Is it accepted to just take them home and open them with FH later?
Post # 2
Ask people to wrap things in clear; on the invite it can say “be a dear, wrap in clear”. That way you are not wasting time actually unwrapping anything; and can still see the gift and thank the giver!
Post # 3
Ugh, if it takes 2 hours to open gifts, the shower has wayyyy too many guests. Whatever happened to it being nearest and dearest?
Personally I’d be a bit miffed if I attended a shower and the guest of honor didn’t open my gift. That’s the whole point of the event! But I realize that since I’ve only attended a handful in my life, they don’t bug me the way they do others.
ETA: If I was asked to wrap in clear, I’d probably buy a bunch of small things and spitefully/smartassedly wrap it all in packing tape. There must be something wrong with me.
Post # 4
I personally hate watching people open gifts and also hate being watched while opening a gift.
But Bridal Showers aren’t a thing in my country but baby showers are so so so boring when you just sit watching someone open 100 gifts. If there’s not the promise of a cute baby I imagine this would be even worse.
Post # 5
Has anyone ever had a joint party? Where guys are allowed to go? That way FH could go and help me not be the center of attention!
Post # 6
Yeah, I agree with skunktastic :
If it took that long, there were too many guests. Do NOT ask people to wrap stuff in cellophane. That’s awful. If you can’t be assed to open the presents, make it easy on the guests and suggest that they bring stuff unwrapped. It’s better for the environment and removes an extra chore from them instead of adding the extra chore (and expense) of finding cellophane.
Post # 7
I have SUCH stage fright so my hubby came along to the shower at my church. It helped so much. For my first shower tho he didn’t come and it was my closest fam and I was so nervous I was in the bathroom a lot and couldn’t eat all the yummy food 😒 (and this was like my grandma and aunts 🙈)
you could also open at the same time to save time and awkardnsss.
Post # 8
We had a couples shower and didn’t open the gifts! Both men and women came, and everyone who brought a gift just left them on a table, we opened them that night and I sent thank you notes within the week. I thought that was much less awkward, and that way everyone got to just drink and socialize.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Watching people unwrap gifts is so boring! I went to a baby shower where it took 90 minutes for the gifts to be unwrapped and after 20 minutes everybody, mom to be included, was just over it . I didn’t have a bridal shower for that very reason a well. I like PPs idea of just suggesting they don’t wrap their gifts. Everybody wins.
Post # 10
I feel as though the point of a shower is the gift giving and thus… the opening. I’d suggest making sure to read ever card aloud and open quickly!
Post # 11
Lol Dont tell people to wrap the gifts in clear. Thats weird, rude and presumptuous.
Post # 12
Can this ‘tradition’ please die with our mothers and grandmothers?! It’s so awkward and embarrassing. No one likes it!!!!!
Opening the gifts at my bridal shower was horrible, it was a year ago and I still cringe. My mom made me sit in the middle of the room for the entire party through all the games and gifts and made me read out every single card aloud 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I have social anxiety and it was absolutely no fun for me.
I don’t even want a baby shower because of this. I’m doing everything I can to avoid it.
Post # 13
If it’s too much trouble for you to open the gifts, don’t have a shower. You can decline. Showers are 100 % about receiving gifts.
In some areas, people are getting carried away with the guest list and the formality of showers. The guests are supposed to be your nearest and dearest, not every woman who is invited to the wedding.If it takes 2 hours to open gifts, there are too many guests. Showers are supposed to be intimate occasions, not crowd events that require renting a hall.
Next thing, brides will be asking us to just mail the shower gift and not bother socializing with the guests at all.
Post # 14
In my opinion the whole point of a shower either bridal or baby is to give gifts to celebrate. So I think it’s pretty normal to have lots of gift openings and ooh and ahh over every little thing. If someone didn’t want to open gifts then that should be passed around by word of mouth so that people know and aren’t expecting it. In most places it really is a cultural norm and could be seen to rude and unappreciative of the gifts.
If there are too many gifts, than maybe a co-ed shower or a smaller party to ease anxiety. I’m used to a bridal shower or baby shower being a small select group of people, normally 10-20. Those gifts are quickly opened and the rest of the time is spent socializing and playing games. It’s normal where I am for someone to have multiple showers, either work, friends or family. Just to keep the numbers down and able to have them in someones home.
Post # 15
I didn’t but I got 98% cash sooooo nothing really to open. I’ve actually been to very few showers where they open the presents.