(Closed) Opening Presents Early

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think you are supposed to open presents until after the wedding but I didn’t listen to that rule. We opened them as soon as we got them and wrote them thank you cards. You can open them but make sure you keep a list of who got you what so when you do get your thank you cards you will remember who to write them to.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We opened the boxes, if they were wrapped then we brought them to the shower to open there.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We are totally opening things as they come, haha! We are keeping a list of all gifts received, and I am trying to get thank yous sent out already.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@BetterSherm:  We’re only opening ours if the guest isn’t attending.  Otherwise, we’re going to wait until after the wedding to thank them for their gift and their attendance.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We opened our right away.  Most gifts were from people not attending anyways.  The ones from people attending came before their RSVP’s or right before the wedding.  We bought a small set of Thank You’s for this reason, then sent everyone a fancy one for attending the wedding and/or gifts.  

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

So is it  a shower gift or wedding gift? If she’s hosting it, why on earth would she send it? Is there a card attached?

You should open and thank people as soon as you receive them and not wait until after the wedding. The rule of thumb is to not USE them before the wedding, in case it doesn’t take place and you offer to return the gifts. If they are still in the packaging, it becomes less of an issue.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

IMO you should wait until the wedding/after the wedding.

If its a shower gift and wrapped bring it to the shower and open there.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree with the “don’t use them before the wedding” idea, unless it’s a shower gift, then bring it to the shower. If it’s a check, you’re never supposed to cash checks before sending a thank you card. My mom drilled that into me my entire life lol

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@BetterSherm:  How do you know it was a wedding gift and not a shower gift? I mean we got gifts shipped seperately from the same people….. Obviously if it’s after the shower it’s safe to assume it’s a wedding gift.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@BetterSherm:  I had a TON of shower gifts wrapped in wedding paper. Just saying.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Open them as you get them and go ahead and write the thank you notes right away. You just aren’t supposed to use the gifts until after the wedding. A Southern tradition is actually to have a Sip-n-See where you invite guests over for light refreshments to view your gifts. It’s a very old tradition, but some still adhere to it. I am an older encore bride (40) and will do it because people here expect it. I will also be writing the last of my thank you notes on my honeymoon.

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