Opening wedding gifts right away??

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Did you open your wedding gifts when they came in the mail?

    Nah, we waited until after the wedding

    We opened them right away!

  • Post # 2
    9238 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    miera31695 :  “I don’t want guests to think I’m ungrateful for their present since I won’t be sending Thank You’s until after the wedding.” — Plus they aren’t going to know you even received it. I think you should open them and send thank yous right away.

    Post # 3
    4873 posts
    Honey bee

    Open them and send thank you cards asap. Your guests need to know that the gift arrived, in one piece, and that you are grateful.

    The traditional rule is that you don’t USE the gifts, however, until after the wedding because should the wedding not take place you are responsible for returning the gifts to the gift-giver.  But opening should happen asap.

    Post # 4
    13921 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    People just want to know their gift was received and to have it acknowledged. The most proper thing is to send thank you notes ASAP, as gifts are received. As the PP mentions, you are not supposed to actually open and start using the gift until after the wedding, though. 

    Post # 5
    2246 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    We received a few presents in the week up to the wedding but we didn’t open anything until the week after the wedding. It wasn’t much of a delay. Our honeymoon was 8 days after our wedding 

    Post # 6
    10309 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We opened them all when we recieved them so that we could send thank-yous within a reasonable timeframe. We didn’t actually use any of the gifts until after the wedding though.

    Post # 7
    47407 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Gifts should be opened and thank you notes sent asap. Get some blank cards you like and start using them now.

    Post # 8
    3083 posts
    Sugar bee

    Send thank you notes as gifts arrive. Much less overwhelming to write them a few at a time!

    Post # 9
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    Agree with everyone else, people get nervous that you didn’t receive their gift if they don’t hear anything. Open away! Lol 

    Post # 10
    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I would call them and let them know it has arrived safely and say thank you, tell them you’re not opening them until after the wedding so they know not to expect a thank you card until after the wedding but they know it’s arrived. But I find a telephone call more personal than a card if you can’t see them in person anyway

    Post # 11
    13921 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    To clarify, gifts should be unwrapped immediately, so that you see what it is, who sent it and in order to acknowledge promptly. But they should not be opened and used until after the wedding. 

    Post # 12
    2972 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    I’d wait to open them all after the wedding. In the meantime, shoot a message to the ones who sent in early just letting them know you’ve received it and look forward to opening your gifts after the wedding. 

    Post # 13
    715 posts
    Busy bee

    We opened them right away, which turned out to be a good thing because a few people got us items that were meant to be used at the wedding like personalized champagne glasses Etc… I would assume though that if anyone got you something like this, they would probably mention it to you. Just do what feels right 🙂

    Post # 14
    697 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Fascinating. In Germany it’s seen as bad luck to open presents before the date of the reason of gift-giving. We only received very few gifts in advance and we only “opened” one of them. We’ve been married for a month now and haven’t sent thank-yous yet because the printer has been dragging his heels. We did start using my in-laws present immediately, since it was a deep freezer that they gave us early so we could freeze the harvest bounty.

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