Post # 1
We’ve Been married for about a month, found out thru his ex wife that her and my mother-in-law have been texting/seeing each other. When they didn’t even do this when my husband was married to her. My feelings are hurt, I found this out a month ago. She texted him and wants us to come to dinner, I’m not ready to forgive her. What should I do? my ex and his ex wife does not have kids.
Post # 2
Why does it matter if your mother in law talks to your husband’s ex? Theyre both grown women and can decide who to have as their friends. It’s totally understandable to not want to do some kind of group dinner, but who your Mother-In-Law talks to is not really yours to worry about.
Post # 3
I knowing sucks, I have had the same problem, but you’ve got to let it go.
Just because relationships break down does not mean other people have to pick sides as such. I’m assuming the ex was in his mumslifefor some time and they were probably friends in their own right.
if she was inviting her to family dinner and stuff then it would be inappropriate, or if they were discussing your relationship, but it is normal and fine for them to have texted each other, she was probably just seeing how she was doing.
IMO you have no other option but to let it go.
Post # 4
Sorry, but you’ve got to let this go. She doesn’t need your forgiveness because she hasn’t done anything wrong.
Post # 5
I agree with PP’s. The breakdown of your husband’s last marriage doesn’t necessarily mean that his mother’s friendship with his ex wife should cease. If they had a friendship then they have a right to continue on with it. I don’t think you really need to worry about anything…just let it go and enjoy married life with your hubby.
Post # 6
That sucks. You know what else sucks? Hanging out with your Mother-In-Law AFTER your divorce. Let it go. Put you big girl pants on and Grace Kelly yourself through dinner.
Post # 7
My Future Mother-In-Law is having a birthday dinner with 140 guests in a few weeks. She has invited the ex wife and she has been given the option of sitting at our table or another table. Initially I wasn’t sure how i felt about it and then I moved on. Just like I can have more than one friend and one friendship doesn’t impact the others, the Future Mother-In-Law can be friendly with more than one of us. Think about why this bothers you and then resolve the root issue. Are you feeling insecure? If so, consider that he is no longer married to her and is married to you.
Relax and enjoy life. Sweating the small stuff takes time that could be devoted to enjoying life.
Post # 8
Sarabethw: Seriously? Your Mother-In-Law doesn’t owe you an apology and has done nothing you need to forgive her for. She is allowed to socialize with whomever she chooses.
As long as she is not conspiring with his ex to end your marriage, or feeding her personal information you don’t want shared, or trying to facilitate a relationship between your husband and the ex or you and the ex, she’s not doing anything wrong.
My Mother-In-Law was very close to one of my husband’s ex-girlfriends. She was the daughter of his Mom’s best friend and my Mother-In-Law had known this girl her entire life. I did ask my Mother-In-Law to not discuss us with her and my husband had to tell her he was no longer interested in maintaining contact with her once he and I became serious and that was pretty much that. I didn’t love that they were friends but it also wasn’t any of my business as long as she didn’t try to involve us in their relationship.
Stop taking this personally. Their choice to have a friendship likely has nothing at all to do with you.