Post # 1
Coming out the other side of a dumb fight with Fiance, just curious for any ladies out there. Does it bother you that your lad leaves the toilet seat up?
My logic is: I clean it, so I get to make the rules. And the rule is – it’s always down. I don’t want to see what’s underneath – gross! If Fiance ever wants to clean it he can weigh in and is more than welcome to start fighting back. It worked for 3 years. Then we moved to our new house that doesn’t have soft close (so it takes a little more effort to put it down without an ungodly “bang”) and now it’s like I have to retrain him omg. His domain is outside (and admittedly we have a lot of yard). Mine is inside. But I’m not about to go out and start kicking up the garden, lol.
And for any gentlemen Bees – what’s the habit in your house?
Anyway. Just curious. Makin conversation haha.
Post # 2
sbl99 : mine has always put it down. We’ve actually had a different argument over the toilet LID. HE insists rhe kid must always be shut, but i was taught to leave the kid up. He has successfully restrained me, lol (but bonus is that this also means the seat is always down, so 🤷🏼♀️)
Post # 3
sbl99 : For $40 I would go to Home Depot and get a new soft close seat.
Post # 4
Mine always puts it down. Never had to tell him
Post # 5
My husband never leaves the seat up.
Post # 6
When Fi moved in with me I was like “I have one rule…. the toilet seat stays down” and that was it. He joked when we moved to our own place together that “the toilet seat can stay up now” but with this house we discovered soft close toilet seats. They’re definitely the way to go for sure.
Funnily enough though…. I don’t put the lid down in female public toilets, not touching those lol
Post # 7
Why should I have to touch a gross toilet seat because he wants to stand to pee?
I prefer the lid closed, tbh.
Post # 8
I don’t care. I leave it down; he leaves it up. It’s equally inconvenient for the other person, which is not very. We both wipe it down with anti-bacteria wipes after using it though, so maybe that makes it not a big deal.
Post # 9
He puts it down. Never had to ask.
Post # 10
xiexie : I agree.. why should my needing it down outweigh his needing it up? It’s such a minor thing.
Post # 11
My FH always puts the seat back down and will jokingly call me out if I forget to put the lid down. Bathroom manners have never been an issue for us.
Post # 12
I’m not bothered in the day time, seriously there’s no effort in putting it down so I don’t care. Before bed though, I ask he put it down because if I get up in the night I don’t switch the light on I just go and plonk myself down, (a result of living by myself in the same place for 7 years it’s habit now) and plonking myself down on porcelain isn’t half unpleasant at 3am
Post # 13
It annoys me when it’s left up (most of the time). I think I’ll use the argument that we both use it when it’s down, but only he uses it when it’s left up… Therefore it should be left down! But honestly I don’t feel like starting fights over it. Thankfully they’re all soft close so I just flick them down.
Post # 14
Darling Husband sits down to pee at home which I am very thankful for. When I lived at home my dad used to always leave the seat up and I hated touching it to put it down.
Post # 15
I just spent $40 on a soft close toilet seat and my life has never been better!