Opinion for fun: Lads leaving the toilet seat up

posted 10 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Never been an issue. He always puts it down and closes the lid as well. 

Post # 17
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Helper bee

I’ve never had Darling Husband leave the seat up (thank god!), however recently I did mention to him (after we had some contractors over that left it up, ugh!) that I’m so happy he never leave’s it up – turns out he never lifts it up anyway! He puffed his chest up a bit (to which always makes me laugh) and let me know that he has just learnt to aim and if he get’s any on the seat by accident then he’ll clean it.

However, whenever at his friends’ houses I don’t mind putting the seat down, but I do always put it back up when I’m finished as it is THEIR house so I abide by how they like to live

Post # 18
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Busy bee

We have a cat that gets into toilets, so we are all trained to keep seats closed if you don’t want to fish a wet cat out of the bowl.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I don’t care. It only takes two seconds to move the seat down or up. If it’s not in the preferred position for whichever one of us walks in the bathroom, we just move it, which takes far less time than arguing about it. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee

penny1403 :  I’m sorry but I burst out laughing at that. Cat’s are such weirdo’s and I love it!

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

 

ilovelift :  I’m with you. We use it opposite ways so why should he always have to put it up and down? Esp as his brother lives with us so I’m outnumbered.

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I was raised to close the lid on the toilet. When you flush with the lid open that stuff goes everywhere. I was SO lucky Darling Husband was raised the same way so we never have this issue. It grosses us both out when we have company ant they leave the lid open never mind the seat. 

Post # 23
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I prefer the lid closed which means the seat is down too, however, this is due to the germs that float around when the toilet is flushed and has nothing to do with thinking my husband should put the seat down just because that’s how I use it.

He typically puts the lid down, if he didn’t, I would just move my toothbrush to our bedroom or something to get that ick factor out of my head as it’s not something I care to argue about. To be honest, I don’t really see why being the one who cleans it has anything to do with it.

I agree with the PP who said to just stop by Home Depot (although I hate soft close because the lid is still partially open when it’s flushed lol).

Post # 24
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Helper bee

People who don’t keep the seat and lid closed at all times are monsters. Enjoy the fecal matter all over your towels and toothbrush.  

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

sbl99 :  we have never had this argument because we both habitually put the lid down before flushing and leave it down until the next use. Both of us had this habit long before getting together.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

sbl99 :  I find it super weird that women care about this at all.  They’re always saying it’s the polite thing to do to put the seat down, but it’s not like when they are finished they raise it up for the guy to be polite as well.  It makes no sense.

In our house, I put it down – I trained myself years ago, as a kid, when we had a dog that drooled all over the seat.  Sit in that a few times and lesson learned!  My husband usually puts it down, sometimes forgets, but I never once asked or cared.  I just check it myself before plopping down, even in the dark.  As to not wanting to see what’s down there, if you’re cleaning it, all that should be down there is water, so I’m not sure what the big deal is.  I’m not too much of a germaphobe about anything though, and I don’t have to clean the toilet (thanks, husband!) Yay!

ETA: pretty sure Mythbusters checked the toilet lid up/down thing and the quantity of germs on toothbrushes and it made no difference to speak of.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

 We have separate bathrooms. I never go in his. Problem solved 😁

I prefer the seat and lid down but I’m not too fussy. Not sure why why preference is more important than his. Him lifting it up is the same effort as me putting it down. Majority of time he puts it down when using my bathroom. If  cleaning is a factor then it would.be his call since he cleans our toilets.

Post # 28
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I grew up in a house where my parents fought over the issue of putting the seat down or up (not the lid). So when I moved in with Darling Husband, I didn’t put the lid down but the seat is down. It was infuriating my Darling Husband. The lid had to be put down after you use it.

 

Post # 29
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Busy bee

I personally don’t give a shit what the toilet lid is doing for any practical reason (and our toilet is in a separate room from the sink/toothbrush/towels) but the cat drinks out the toilet sometimes and when he does, he later throws up on my floor and I want zero part of cat puke. So, I request a closed seat. 

If the cat didn’t drink out of the toilet, go HAM with the open toilet seat, what do I care.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

 This is my future husband commenting this: Anyone who thinks the whole debate as to wether or not to leave the toilet seat down for a woman is important is ridiculous. We are all adults. We all can do as we please. Trying to control someone over something so silly is ridiculous. do I put the seat back down for her; yes, if I remember.; usually its always down, but she doesnt complain because its the same five seconds to put it down as it is for her to put it up. if something this small is bothering you take a breath and realize that its not a hard fix, we’re men and stupid but we’re also human. When something small happens that is not big in the grand scheme, just go with it. It’s not worth it to chastise the ones you love for something so small. if its not hurting anyone, why let it bother you? My coworker told me once that sometimes you just learn to live with the little things, even if they bother you because you love someone that much. Unless its something truly problematic, don’t worry about it. If it bothers you that much, try lifting up the seat after your done everytime so then you can see how it can be easy to forget to do it sometimes. It’s a toilet, not a throne.

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