(Closed) Opinion: Is this rude?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh heck no. If someone bought me THREE shower presents and a bachalorette party present and all that, I would be thrilled. 

Post # 4
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6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

No!  I think you are 1000% fine on this – I’d be absolutely blown away if my Maid/Matron of Honor did all that for me.  I’m sure your BFF didn’t expect cash from you, but if she did, she was jerky. 

Post # 5
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5762 posts
Bee Keeper

You never know how some people will react to certain things, but in my mind, you went above and beyond being generous with buying so many gifts. It’s nice that you went to all showers, but I would have stopped at one large gift (or bought smaller ones and spread them out). In some areas of the country (mainly the South), I’ve heard that people only give shower gifts and not seperate wedding gifts.

When I was the Maid/Matron of Honor I did the shower and batchelorette too, but also gave a wedding gift of cash.

Only you know your friend. Have you sensed there’s anything wrong or she’s upset about anything? If not, I think you’re good.

Post # 7
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not rude, my Maid/Matron of Honor did way less than you did! Two people in my wedding party didn’t give us wedding gifts and two did. and then I didn’t get any gifts from anyone for the bachelorette party! and only one girl gave me a shower gift. So don’t get stressed out over it. You shound like you went above and beyond and were a great Maid/Matron of Honor.  Everyone is different 🙂

Post # 8
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10572 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Nope!  One of my BMs did group gifts with her family for my shower and wedding.  She was sooo helpful, especially close to the wedding and that means way more to me than the gifts (we are also awesome).

Post # 9
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you were more than generous! Don’t sweat it.

Post # 10
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No weren’t rude at all, you did more than a lot of people do. Don’t worry!

Post # 11
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If anything you gave a few gifts too many- basic etiquette says you’re only responsible for 1 pre-wedding gift (so if you attend 3 bridal showers, you’d only bring a gift to 1).

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you did more than enough! 🙂

Post # 13
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6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

IMO you went above and beyond and most brides would be thrilled to have you as their Maid/Matron of Honor.  Don’t sweat it, you did enough! 

Post # 14
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I agree, if my Maid/Matron of Honor does all that for me, I certainly wouldn’t expect her to get me aNOTHER gift for the wedding!

Post # 15
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@happy2bee: Oh I certainly do not think you were rude at all! You fufilled your duties at a Maid/Matron of Honor and then went above and beyond in the gift department! I would have stopped at one gift! I would not feel bad at all, you did everything that you should have done and then some! :o)

Post # 16
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You weren’t rude!! You sound like you did more than enough for her. 🙂

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