Post # 1
I was just recently at a wedding. Today, the bride posted on her facebook profile “In leiu of thank you notes, we’ll be making a donation to the American Cancer Society.”
I was floored. I am completely supportive of doing a donation instead of favors. However, I feel this is rude, as they will not be expressing gratitude toward all of the guests who traveled in for the event and brought quite generous gifts.
Am I alone in believing this?
Post # 3
in lieu of thank you notes??? for real?
Post # 5
Um, WOAH. That’s really bad.
Post # 6
No, you are not alone. I’m not too much of an etiquette snob but thank you notes are a sticking point for me. I’ve been to far too many weddings where I did not get one and I think it’s a no no.
Post # 7
@MrsEdamame: I don’t think its a bad idea if they let everyone know but doing it over FB is lame and not everyone will know and they will be insulted. To tell everyone they have to mail it so it renders it useless. Yeah, it makes more sense for favors.
Post # 8
Are you sure it wasnt a joke? Its apples and oranges. I dont see how they relate.
Post # 9
That seems pretty rude to me. Thank you note cards are not very expensive and to post that on Facebook not only seems like the wrong place, but also very lazy.
Post # 10
Whaaaaat?? Totally rude. Besides it being in poor taste, how will guests who aren’t on Facebook even know that she did this?
Post # 11
That’s pretty funny actually. It doesn’t even make sense. How does giving money to a charity get you out of writing thank you notes? And what about the people who are not on FB? I am in the middle of thank you notes right now, and I would love to not write them. But obviously that is not an option. People are weird
Post # 12
@lefeymw: It definitely was not a joke. I have no idea how these two relate. It seems the bride may be looking for a way to get out of writing them?
Post # 13
definately does NOT make sense…
Post # 14
I don’t even understand.
How can thanking your guests be the same as donating to a charity. That’s just absurd.
I think people are taking this ‘donating in your name’ thing a little too far. If you want to donate great but you can’t do it in lieu of thanking people who bought you gifts for your marriage! And don’t post it on facebook it kind of takes all the taste out of donating doesn’t it?
Post # 16
I don’t think I’ve received a thank you note for the last five or so wedding gifts that I bought. Apparently, even though I try not to get hung up on this sort of thing, I did notice. I guess a donation and a FB status update is better than nothing.