Post # 1
I have been going back and forth in my mind about what to think about boudoir shoots for the groom. Half of my thinks it’s a nice gift if the pictures are tasteful but the other half of my thinks they are not appropriate within a Catholic relationship as they could lead the groom to lust or tempt him to engage in immoral acts.
What are your opinoins?
Post # 3
I think that since you will be marrying him, it will be okay and tasteful. My FI is catholic, and I plan on doing a boudior shoot for him.
Post # 4
I think if they are done well, they are gorgeous. I had some done (for myself) about 3 years ago. I will again just before our wedding for FI
Post # 5
Have you read any of Pope John Paul II’s Theology of the Body? I haven’t made it through the texts yet, but I’ve been reading a lot of commentary by Catholic theologians about it and it looks really interesting – and might be helpful in making your decision. Personally, I think boudoir shots would be fine, as your husband is supposed to desire his wife, you know?
This writer touches on some really excellent points: http://www.christendom-awake.org/pages/mshivana/faq-tob.htm
“John Paul II views eros, which strives to possess the good, the true and the beautiful, as a powerful force for the goodness of union… Far from being suspicious of eros, John Paul II sees it as an essential ingredient of spousal love.”
Post # 6
I’m no longer a practicing catholic, but I just wanted to say that your husband probably deserves a little more credit. A tastefully done boudoir photo won’t turn him into a lust-filled animal.
Post # 7
I didnt do a shoot but I had a nude painted (tasteful art not porno). We will hang it in our room. I think a tastefully done book would be nice. whats to say he is going to want to rub it rather than find you and make love to you? Give him more credi and have fun with it
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
My FH isn’t a Catholic, but he doesn’t want me to do a boudoir shoot because he doesn’t feel it’s really… appropriate with the tone of the day. But that’s entirely a question of our personal tastes. I’m a Catholic, and if I thought he’d like them, I’d do it. I don’t think it’s at all problematic, as long as you’re not planning to, y’know, sell them on the internet afterwards!! If it’s just for a man you love and trust, then why not?
But like I said, my FH thinks they’d make him uncomfortable, and me too probably. Maybe you could discuss it with him?
Post # 9
Part of me wanted to do the shoot for my FI…but at the same time I MYSELF would feel uncomfortable with someone seeing me that way (of course even tastefully dressed)…just my personal opinion though. I really want the pics for him *I will give him after the wedding*..but I am super self conscious and would feel UBER uncomfortable!
Post # 10
It’s true a man should desire his wife, and there is nothing “naughty” or dirty about your body or displaying it for your husband. AT ALL.
However, ideally it would be you displaying your body IN PERSON to him, it’s not ideal for him to be gazing at your body seperated from the experience of being with you or making love with you. It’s the old art vs. porn thing. If it’s art then I don’t think there’s anything wrong with beautiful art. If it’s closer to pornography, then it doesn’t matter if it’s just between husband and wife, it’s not too good.
Post # 11
It isn’t as if you are giving the shots to a short-term boyfriend.. this is the man you plan to marry and uh… “engage in immoral acts” with. If you are referring to masturbation then if he is receiving these gifts at the beginning of your wedding day he won’t have time to engage in any… “self immoral acts” as it were and it isn’t a problem. I personally won’t get these types of shots done because I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing them but I do think (when done tastefully) that they make a nice fun gift for a couple to share.
Post # 12
@Sibiohan: the thing is for Catholics, sex between a husband and wife is NEVER immoral. Because it’s an expression of love between two people.
Post # 13
My biggest hesitation would be someone else (the photographer) seeing you in such a light. No matter how tastefully done, I certainly don’t feel posing in front of a male photographer is appropriate, and even feel strange about a female. It doesn’t hold up to my “would St. ____ do this?” test.
Now, there was a blogger (I think Ms. Candy Corn) who did DIY boudoir pictures…I’d be more okay with something like that, but still think it’s ideal for a husband to see his wife in person.
Post # 14
Never, ever, ever in a million years would I get in front of a photographer for a boudoir shoot. NOT HAPPENING…..
However, if others want to do them, go for it. It’s just not for me.
Post # 15
When are you giving them to him?
I’m giving mine to my groom the morning of our wedding
you could always give them to him in the car on the way to the hotel?
Post # 16
@Magdalena: I didn’t think it is, but that is how the OP referred to sex in the original post so I was following her lead.