Post # 1
I would love to get your thoughts on if it’s appropriate/a good idea to invite my boss to my wedding.
I have worked at the company almost 5 years and now work directly under the director of the company.
His daughter also works there and I am on very good terms with her too.
I do you think I should invite him, his daughter and their respective partners to my wedding. I will be there around 6 years by the time of my wedding…
My company is relatively small however I couldn’t invite everyone either. I would feel uncomfortable just inviting my work friends as it would be a snub to others.
I thought I might be a good idea to invite them as work representatives to the wedding but I would also feel a wee bit paranoid about having my boss there.
Let me know what you did/think.
Thank you 🙂
Post # 2
Do you actually want them there? Like, will you be happy that they’ve come and want to talk to them on your wedding day? Or are you just considering it out if a sense of obligation? If it’s the former, then definitely invite them. If it’s the latter, don’t feel like you have to. It’s not something a reasonable boss would necessarily expect.
Post # 3
Unless you are friends outside work then I think it is weird.
Post # 4
You should only invite people you want to have at your wedding. You do not need work representatives there, and you should not feel obligated to invite your boss. (Work reps at a wedding is giving me major Mad Men vibes for some reason. Lol)
We always throw wedding showers for people in our department but very few people have ever invited work friends. And people from work NEVER expect to be invited. I was never personally offended to not have been invited to any of those wedding.
Post # 5
I was also considering inviting my boss to my wedding but am glad that I didn’t. My dad even suggested it, which made me give it more consideration, but just imagining them there made me feel anxious. So if you’d feel paranoid about it, then I wouldn’t.
Another thing in my experience is with smaller companies, the boss may go to your wedding and think “so this is how she’s spending my money”. 🙃 I’ve heard such comments made by my boss before, judging what coworkers have spent their money on and whether they thought it was necessary or not.
Post # 6
A bit of both I suppose. In one respect he has paid for our home and the wedding. There is a good working relationship there.
I think more out of respect than obligation. He has done a lot for me in terms of paying for courses and to progress my career and giving me the opportunity to work directly under him.
Post # 7
I don’t think he would be offended or expect to be invited.
But I wonder would it be a good gesture after all he has done for me over the past years and he’s clearly recognised me as a good worker. I would be friends with his daughter.
Post # 8
I think it is important to maintain some boundaries between work and personal life.
Post # 9
I agree with PP who said it’s good to have separation between work and personal life. Also, weddings are typically filled with family members and friends who all know each other. Your boss and his daughter may feel out of place in a situation like that. Ultimately, it is your decision, and if you see them as friends and want them to be there then you should invite them.
Post # 10
I invited 3 of my bosses to my wedding and 2 of them came. I didnt invite anyone else from work. I was glad to have them there.
Post # 12
I was going to invite my ex boss to my wedding. He helped my ex F and I build our dream home and is a mentor to me. He is also super close friends with my dad and they meet every week for lunch (my dad used to be his boss before he retired). I consider him almost like extended family, so it didn’t feel weird to me. I didn’t consider inviting anyone else from work though, even though there are a few people I am very close with (I’ve worked for the same company for 15 years and my dad worked there 25 years prior to retirement) because I like to keep personal and work fairly separate.
Post # 13
Unless you’re actual friends who hang out outside of work, then no, you shouldn’t invite him. You don’t need “work representatives” at your wedding.
Post # 14
I invited my boss but I knew him well and often went out drinking w him and my team in the evenings. I invited all my team in fact. My boss bought out all the alcohol in the bar as a gift to me ! Great fun was had by all! It depends on your relationship with your boss I guess?
Post # 15
If you had the kind of relationship with your boss that made it a good idea for him to be at your wedding, you wouldn’t even be asking us this question because there wouldn’t be any question in your mind – he’d already be on your guest list. So the fact that you’ve created this post tells me that you shouldn’t be inviting him.