(Closed) Opinion on Inviting no-longer co-workers

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unfortunately, you sent Save the Dates to the old coworkers, so you have to invite them still.  Hopefully they’ll decline since you haven’t spoken in a while!

Post # 4
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

If I was one of your old coworkers, I wouldn’t expect an invite to someone’s wedding if I barely speak to them, even considering I had received a STD. If you don’t think you’ll see these people again or have any reason to “play nice”, I wouldn’t bother. 

Post # 5
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sticky situation. The cut and dry answer is that if you send someone a STD, you need to send them an invitation. Let’s set that etiquette aside though and look at it practically.

While I think it’s likely they’ll decline, the risk you run if you sent a STD but not an invitation is that they put it on their calendar, and when they don’t receive an invitation, are left with a very poor impression of you. You never know who you are going to come back around to working with/being hired by, so I wouldn’t want to possibly leave that bad impression with former coworkers. I’d suggest sending them invitations.

Post # 6
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nikki711jones:  it’s rude to not send an invite to someone you sent a STD to – even if they told you they weren’t going to come before you send out invites!


Post # 7
3265 posts
Sugar bee

Let this be an advertisment for the evils of STD being sent to anyone other then your nearest and dearest.

You have already invited these guests, it would be impolite to now not tell them where, when they have been saving the date as you requested.


Post # 8
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Tough one. Technically you sent the save the date so you should send an invite.


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