Post # 1
Ok so I need honest opinions out there, please! We are having a bigger wedding, the Save-the-Dates totaled just under 330. This included 9 old co-workers and their husbands, so an additional 18 guests. I have not worked there since October and have exchanged 1 email with all of them since. So we are not close, but since I worked with them everyday (before leaving the company in October) I thought it was nice to add them to them invite list. Now, I have about 5 new co-workers I’d like to invite, including their spouses, but I feel like I’m getting out of hang and just going overboard to “be nice”. I feel torn and don’t know if it’s OK to not invite the old co-workers, since my wedding isn’t until August, I feel like I’d never see them in the mean time anyway… HELP! I need suggestions…
Post # 3
Unfortunately, you sent Save the Dates to the old coworkers, so you have to invite them still. Hopefully they’ll decline since you haven’t spoken in a while!
Post # 4
If I was one of your old coworkers, I wouldn’t expect an invite to someone’s wedding if I barely speak to them, even considering I had received a STD. If you don’t think you’ll see these people again or have any reason to “play nice”, I wouldn’t bother.
Post # 5
Sticky situation. The cut and dry answer is that if you send someone a STD, you need to send them an invitation. Let’s set that etiquette aside though and look at it practically.
While I think it’s likely they’ll decline, the risk you run if you sent a STD but not an invitation is that they put it on their calendar, and when they don’t receive an invitation, are left with a very poor impression of you. You never know who you are going to come back around to working with/being hired by, so I wouldn’t want to possibly leave that bad impression with former coworkers. I’d suggest sending them invitations.
Post # 6
@nikki711jones: it’s rude to not send an invite to someone you sent a STD to – even if they told you they weren’t going to come before you send out invites!
Post # 7
Let this be an advertisment for the evils of STD being sent to anyone other then your nearest and dearest.
You have already invited these guests, it would be impolite to now not tell them where, when they have been saving the date as you requested.
Post # 8
Tough one. Technically you sent the save the date so you should send an invite.