(Closed) Opinion On Venue/Coordinator Screw up

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Definitely ask!  You have every right to be compensated for this mistake that was not your fault.

Post # 4
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Totally ask, worse they can say is “no”…What a stressful situation, that sucks!!! I hope you can resolve it but it is so hard when you’ve had a date in your head for such a long time to just change it! Where are you getting married, btw??

Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Oh I would TOTALLY ask. They messed up, they should make it right. 


That being said… It seems like a LOT of people pick a date without having a venue and I don’t get it. I mean I guess if the date was SUPER important like you’re getting married on your grandparents’ anniversary or something? But I feel like its safer to just pick a general season/month and then see what is available. 

Post # 6
1565 posts
Bumble bee

@corgi – I agree, it’s so much easier to book if you aren’t set on a specific date! We were completely flexible and it helped us get our dream venue

@Gerbera – It never hurts to ask, but don’t be surprised if they don’t do anything. They’re not obligated to offer you a special discount because they mixed up your date. Especially if it’s a cheaper venue, they may not have much leeway anyway. I hope you can work something out though. Good luck!

Post # 8
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That’s really frustrating.  When Fiance and I got engaged, we found a place at a University and were considering booking.  They told us we could only book one year prior and to call back after that year hit.  I did call just to confirm, and the space was taken. WTF? In the end I’m glad we didn’t go there.  I don’t want to deal with people like that!

Post # 9
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

what is an auspicious date?

Post # 11
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If they aren’t willing to budge on the site fee, see if they’ll reimburse you for your photographer deposit, since you were moving ahead under the assumption that your date was available.

Post # 12
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well, as an August 21, 2010 bride I’m inclined to tell you to keep the date and find a new place but if you’re in love with it then you may have to eat the deposit on the photographer and find a new one. Let me ask you this, though – are you really going to feel comfortable working with these people if they’ve already made such a huge mistake? I wouldn’t. Sounds like they do not have it together over there.

Also, no harm in asking them to waive the site fee even if they don’t want to be asked. Who cares what they want?

Post # 13
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My first engagement the same thing happened to me.  I had picked a date and found out that it was Mother’s Day. Being that we are a florist family (duh duh duh what was I thinking) I had to change the date because half the family would need to work!  So we moved it to June, signed the contracts started working on the other vendors to have the hotel call and ask us to move our date.  They had double booked with another couple.  I said I’d move my date to their next opening which was July 10th.  I also got them to throw in free chaircovers, the upgraded china and a fruit and cheese display. 

So I would ask what the coordinator can do to help eleviate some of the cost. 

Post # 14
48 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m wondering what happened here, the last post was a while ago.  I’m actually going to look at Vanderbilt tomorrow.  It will be the first site we are checking. 

I work for a University that rents space for events and we have an exclusive in house caterer that must be used.  We will 100% NEVER drop the site fee.  Traditionally if the contract was signed with the venue (not catering) and the funds were accepted, the college has to give you the space on the contract. 

I do find it odd though that if it’s the space of the college that you would not have to deal with the space/event person prior to dealing with the caterer.

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