(Closed) Opinion please–don’t know what to gift

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What should I gift someone who I am not close to and only know thru a friend of mine?
    Something from her registry; even though only expensive items are left (over $50) : (2 votes)
    6 %
    Following fi's advice--get something around $5 and a card : (4 votes)
    13 %
    Purchase a gift card for $10-20 and say whatever..I don't care if she thinks I'm cheap : (13 votes)
    41 %
    Get her a Betty Crocker cookbook and call it a day : (7 votes)
    22 %
    Buy her something monkey related (she was registered for monkies bathroom stuff at BBB ) : (2 votes)
    6 %
    Other, please explain : (4 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Does S know what she is getting B?  Could you go in on something together?  That would save you both a little cash.

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    If she’s too cheap to send you a real invite, she has no right to think you’re cheap for whatever gift you get her.  I say go with a giftcard.  I’m sure she’ll get plenty of those.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    This party sounds very gift grabby to me. I wouldn’t worry about it and I wouldn’t be surprised if some people show up empty handed. I would never post something like that out on FB w/o saying “No Gifts, Please”  or something to that effect.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    When following proper etiquette the WEDDING is the gift giving event NOT the reception and so You are in NO required to give a little gift!

    If you still want to get her a gift I say go with your gut – Don’t spend more on her because you are afraid to look cheap that is not the purpose of gift giving anyway! You can always get her a GC to BBB and that way it can go towards finishing off her registry! 

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

    My opinion is that the primary point to getting gifts is the thought.

    How will you know she likes the store for which you get her a gift certificate?  It’s usually hard to spend $10 in most places.

    If it were me, I’d be thrilled with something small (the $5 gift you’re referring to) and a card.  Something that you put even a little bit of extra thought into.  Even just a card would be nice!  I think smaller, heart-felt (genuine) gifts mean way more than anything $$

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I’d say card and something little, rather than trying to guess what she’d want. If you end up going the gift-card route, I’d go for one that is a visa or american express, that way it can be used anywhere.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

    sorry – I posted before reading the whole story.

    Just give her a card!  Call it a day, and don’t worry about it.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I’d go with a small gift card on this one. You don’t have to get her anything but a gift card would be a nice gesture.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee

    what about a bottle of wine? or a box of chocolates? I personally think a card is good enough seeing as how invities werent even printed. She can’t expect her friends to spend 50+ on her. We’re all young, I’d be happy if my friends just bought we a shot the next time we were out!

    Post # 13
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    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would just give them a card. Tell them congratulations and best of luck!

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I would either split something with S, but more likely get a bottle of wine, like you might do going to a dinner party.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    I think you should get her a sexy monkey!! Just kidding 😉

    Maybe a bottle of wine wrapped with a cute dish towel. I got this at my wedding and LOVED it! 

    Post # 16
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    You should keep in mind the expense of the reception dinner.  If you think you are only being invited for the gift, maybe you should consider skipping the event.  Etiquette actually reccommends you gift in relation to the expense of your attendance.  With the expense of receptions these days, bride’s rarely invite to receive gifts ~ it’s quite difficult to make your money back.  If it is a formal affair you should plan to spend a fair amount on your gift.

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