- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
So backstory: In college, I made friends with S who happened to live with B. B’s parents bought her a house and left S to find a place to live so S and I got a place together and rented for our sophomore year. I meet B a few times and we did things together with S but I wasn’t close to B. B meet P and they got married last month. And, I knew through S that she was getting married and I was excited for her because I know B and P before they were together and well, it’s exciting. But, B and P never invited my fiance and I to the wedding or anything..we really don’t talk, all I ever hear about them is from S who I’m still friends with/used to be roommate with.
So B and P just invited me to a reception from after the wedding for “friends only” on facebook! (no formal invite/no phone call/no personal nada) S really wants me to go with her because she doesn’t know all of B and P friends…but she meet B’s parents and have become one of their “adopted” children ( I know..that’s a whole another story)
SO…long story short, I told S that I would go even though I was going to hit NO on the reply section of facebook and now I want to bring a gift..because I would so feel guility about not bringing a gift and they are college students with bad luck and could probably use something.
But, B is registered at only BBB and everything cheap is taken from people who went to her wedding! So the only other things are like 50 dollars and now..I am not sure if I should spend that much for someone I don’t talk too!
I feel like she is only inviting me to get a gift probably to finish off her registry because she knows my fi and I are pretty financially stable and when it comes down to it, My fiance…I unfortunately talked to him about this, lol and he doesn’t even want to spend 5 dollars on them! lol.I thought about a gift card but didn’t really like that idea. Because I wouldn’t want to give her more than 20..maybe not even that. But, I don’t want to end up with one of those huh? gifts.
So, I was asking..what should I gift her? How much do you think is reasonable to spend on someone you really don’t talk too and really think is just inviting you for the gift? Should I go off the registry and find something similar for less money?
I was thinking about maybe getting them a picture frame or a cookbook since they like to cook…But I don’t know B well enough to know what they would like and S is no help because she just says get her something off the registry. S doesn’t really talk about her too much and the only thing she told me while she was living with B is that B/P liked to have sex a lot and were loud and that B likes monkies. I don’t want to tell S that I don’t want to get her something from there because I don’t want to sound cheap or don’t want S telling B that I didn’t want to spend a lot of money on her because we don’t talk. Geez…
What would you do? Any suggestions or ideas would be welcomed…
Please keep in mind though I found out this week and the thing is next weekend..so I don’t have a lot of time to order something online and get it shipped..
Sorry it’s soo long