(Closed) Opinion please: Would You Invite Her?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Invite?
    Yes, invite her for the sake of the group. : (33 votes)
    67 %
    No, it's your wedding. : (16 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
    1328 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I voted yes because we’ve got one invited. I can’t stand the guy (he’s always very rude to me), FI used to be close but has pretty much hated being around the guy for the last 3 years, but he’s a big cry baby drama queen so we’re inviting him just to avoid trouble.


    For me our wedding is big enough that I won’t have to see them too much, and it’s going to avoid a ton of drama.  I’ve got enough to deal with for the wedding, don’t need one more.


    Post # 4
    2972 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    If you really think it will create problems in the future then I would just invite her. You will barely even notice she is there.

    Post # 5
    7656 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I said yes because I’d rather avoid problems than have to deal with a group of them. You don’t have to hang out with them at the wedding, so perhaps you won’t see much of this person anyway (sucks you have to pay for them when they are rude).

    Post # 6
    298 posts
    Helper bee

    I have a similar situation, and I will be sending her an invite. It’s a few hours away, and I don’t think she will come. If she does, I’ll have so many other people there and she will be the last thing on my mind.

    Post # 7
    12259 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Yep. We had one at our wedding, too! But because we love her long term BF of almost 10 years. She is a HORRIBLE person, though! We hated inviting her, but we didn’t want to make things awkward with him.

    Post # 8
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Yeah, I’m thinking everyone has at least one of those at their wedding…I know we will have a few, but it should be easy to ignore her with everything going on. And she will have to at least feign niceness since it’s YOUR wedding, but if she doesn’t, just ignore her and remember that you’re the better person because you took the high road by inviting her at all.

    Post # 9
    1928 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Soon_To_Be_Mrs_:  I’m on the fence about this one, but because it might affect future get-togethers, I’d invite her. Hopefully she’ll have a date clash and will have to decline 🙂

    Post # 11
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    One more idea – you could just invite her and not a plus one…perhaps she would get the hint? Just a thought…plus you would save money by having only one more person rather than two should she decide to come.

    Post # 13
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Soon_To_Be_Mrs_:  Definitely! That’s what I’m planning on doing! And then she still gets to come but you at least get just a little satisfaction that she couldn’t bring a date. Muahaha Innocent

    Post # 14
    881 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Soon_To_Be_Mrs_:  I would invite them for the simple fact you wont even have to see her for more than a few minutes, she may decline anyway, and you will be so busy having fun she wont have any opportunity to argue! I think inviting her for the sake of not making the group awkward later on is well worth it in this case. Good luck! 

    Post # 16
    2253 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I may be in the minority here, but I wouldn’t invite her. I am very selective with who I spend time with and I don’t have the patience for being around people I don’t like for the sake of others. Our wedding was no exception.

    My guest list, I suppose, had the potential of being controversial, but everyone got over it and there was nobody at our wedding we didn’t want there. Also, our wedding was relatively intimate (60ish people) and I made an effort to talk to each and every guest so I would have noticed if someone was there that I didn’t want there.

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