- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
sorry for the super long post. I want to vent a little. wasn’t sure which board to post to.
My coworker keeps giving me flak about my “unusual” wedding decisions. She just tells me straight out “NO, that’s not how it’s done”. It’s really annoying, and a little hurtful… I like my ideas, I think it’ll make the event more ‘me’. she has so many rules.
I told her I was looking to spend $500 at the most on my dress. oh nooo.. she says my dress budget needs to start at $1,000. I want a tea length dress and I’d prefer to avoid white. she flipped.. no and no.
Ok, so i ended up falling in love with a $1,000 dress. It’s not floor length (reaches just above the ankle) and it’s a coffee/champagne color. She actually approved of this one, but when I said I’m going to sell the dress after the wedding she really freaked. I tried to explain it’s double what I planned on spending and it’s only going to be worn once. apparently it doesn’t matter.. this dress MUST hang in my closet for the rest of my life.
I don’t want my Bridesmaid or Best Man to wear matching dresses. Only the same color but different styles. In fact I don’t plan on picking out their dresses. I want for my bridesmaids to find a dress they each individually love for themselves, and all I’d ask is that they get a specific color. I thought this was a super cute idea, since I’d like my wedding to reflect my personality.. laid back and playful. nope.. I’m not allowed to do that either apparently.
for the reception I picture lots of candles. Fiance and I want it to feel like we’re among the stars. When I mentioned I don’t want that many flowers, and may choose nonfloral centerpieces (I saw a beautiful centerpiece with feathers and candles), she made a face like she caught a whiff of doo doo.
apparently a cash bar is absolutely out of the question. I’m opting for open bar, but when I told her I went to a wedding with no bar and would’ve liked the option to pay for my own drinks, she scoffed and said cash bars are tacky.
We are skipping on the champagne. For the toast our guests can use whatever they are already drinking. again, she thinks I’m making a mistake. she says some people may use their water glass to toast and it is unlucky to do so. I don’t believe in superstition so to me it sounds like I’d be wasting money on champagne just to accommodate an irrationality.
oh and I’m considering maybe keeping my last name. GASP how disrespectful of me, I should be honored to take my husband’s last name and if I don’t then it looks like I’m not devoted to him.
the venue, the date, the food, the first dance song.. name it and she has a rule against my choice. there are more examples.. but you get the idea. Traditional weddings are beautiful, but it’s just not my style. I mostly nod my head and listen to her opinions, I pretend to agree cause I don’t feel like defending my taste to her. I’m still doing it my way.. cause helloooo, it’s MY wedding. I’m just annoyed. She is very firm with her disapproval, and lays it to me as if her option is the only option.
She’ll be at the wedding. I’m sure judging and hating on every detail.