(Closed) opinionated MIL

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Hmm…it’s tough that she’s paying for the bridal hair, makeup, etc, but you should be able to go to the place of YOUR choosing, not your MIL’s choosing. Not to mention, you would absolutely want your sister and mom there! Why wouldn’t you? It sounds as if she wants to be sure she’s controlling where you go. My thought is, if your mom and sister can’t come, then you’re going somewhere they CAN come. You could always go to a few places for a trial, or do your research on the places you want to and THEN come to a decision, but I wouldn’t let her stress you out. You have enough to worry about with your wedding day without any snide remarks about how your hair and makeup won’t be “good enough.”

Post # 4
350 posts
Helper bee

Ugh.  I know you said it’s your culture, but for me I feel like the bride’s hair and makeup, and who she spends time with as she gets ready for her wedding day, is ZERO business of the Future Mother-In-Law.  I would thank her for her money but decline it and pay for it yourself, do what you want to do with whoever you want to do it with.

Post # 5
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

That stinks; you should be able to choose the salon you want to go to, regardless of who is paying.  As long as it’s not something that to her would be ‘too expensive’ or something…..you should be able to choose. 

Getting made up for your wedding is pretty personal & intimate, so even if you let her have her way on other aspects of the wedding since her family is paying, your hair & makeup should be your choice.

However, it sounds like the place she wants to go to is nice, so don’t rule it out just to be stubborn. 

You should absolutely have your mother & sister with you.  If she thinks the salon won’t be able to accomidate, tell her that she and her friend can go to the salon of their choosing, and you will find one that can take you and your family. 

Post # 6
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would hope you woud be able to come up with a compromise–as you both have a stake in this.

But ultimately it’s your wedding, and I think you should definitely get ready with your mom and sister.  Let her know that you’d all like to stay to gether the morning of the wedding and ask if she can make another suggestion for a salon, or have her calle the salon to see if they can arrange ahead of time for 5 people (not many people for even a small salon!)

Post # 7
7490 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think I would go with her choice of salon since she’s paying, but I would insist that my mom and sister went with me.

Post # 9
782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Oh, I am so sorry. I can totally see my Future Mother-In-Law pulling the same thing. I hope you’re able to find a place where you can be with your family and make your Future Mother-In-Law happy at the same time.

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