Post # 1
Okay, so I’m close. Like really close to our big day.
I figured we can pull it off fine on our own. My mom thinks so, and so do my friends and Wedding Party.
But my Future Mother-In-Law and FAunit in law have me doing a mini-freakout. Making me feel like I really, really need a Day of Coordinator to pull it all together and keep us on track.
To all you married bees, did you have a DOC or didn’t you?
How did it go? Less stress? More stress?
Was it worth the money?
Tell me your experiences Please!
Post # 4
We had an unofficial DOC. It was a family friend who was just helping out with things. She told people when to walk during the ceremony and helped to keep things moving during the reception or just reminded us certain things like “It’s time to cut the cake” or whatever. It was helpful!
Post # 5
I didnt pay for a DOC but I had a team of 8 Usherettes who all had cute dresses in the same fabric but with different styles. The leader of the usherettes was my DOC, she is a close friend of my husbands family and she did EXCELLENT. she went above and beyond what I would have expected from a paid DOC. I think its important to use someone who actually knows you and CARES about your wedding because I’ve heard so many nightmare stories about paid DOCs dropping the ball
Post # 6
@bells:Honestly that’s what I’m scared of. But I have close friends and family who are recommending this DOC, I trust their opinions. And we’re from a small town, so reputation can make or break a person in that line of work. Ahhhh, I’m so on the fence!
@PitBulLover:I feel like it would be helpful too…. just not sure we really need to spend the money. It’s almost like if it was a free service that a friend was providing it would be like: “Great, Score, what a bonus!” But we’d have to pay someone. We’re having a huge wedding and all the people I would trust to do it are invited… I’d hate to take away from their time as a guest. Boo. :/
Post # 7
I had a full wedding planner and while I was disappointed with what she did day of for my ceremony (I barely saw her though pictures tell me she was there), her team did an AMAZING job for the reception! I didn’t have to worry about a thing and they set everything up beautifully!
For me it was also waaaaay worth it because she helped me find 3 of my vendors that I wouldn’t have found without her help and they were all 3 fantastic! My caterer, my photographer, and my cake baker. I saved well over the cost of her fees just in those 3 things! Then add in the fact that my planner had all the linens, plates, silverware, glasses, chargers, etc that I was able to borrow (FOR FREE!) and we’re talking even bigger savings. 🙂
So while I might have been disappointed in the one aspect, overall I have no regrets whatsoever!
Post # 8
My biggest regret from my wedding is not having a DOC. I figured that because my venue had a catering manager that she would take care of everything. I was WRONG. She did a great job managing the vendors before the wedding, but she spent the entire reception in the kitchen managing the waitstaff and chefs, and I had no one to cue the DJ, make announcements, collect gifts, cater to everyone’s requests..ect. I became the single point of contact and had to chase people down to get everything coordinated.
I didn’t want to appoint a family member or friend because I wanted all of my guests to have fun and not feel any responsibility. My advice is HIRE A DOC!!!!
Post # 9
@CanAmBride: Thanks for that perspective!