Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I must be hormonal lately, cause I keep posting vent-y stuff on the Bee (heh). Mostly I’m just thankful for a place where there are so many supportive ladies going through all the same things I am!
So I posted a status update on FB that said, “Florist is booked! One more thing checked off of the never-ending list :)”. Literally. With a smiley face. And most people liked it, or said, “Yay!” or whatever. And then there was the guy (who will be one of our GM; I don’t know him that well) who says, “Well, if you’d just elope, then you wouldn’t have to worry about it.”. Um, thanks for the support. This is the 3rd status update I’ve posted having to do with the wedding since we got engaged in September, so it’s not like I’m always complaining about it or anything. I’m sorry if 3 wedding statuses in 9 months counts as WEDDING OVERLOAD.
It was nothing major, I just found this comment slightly offensive. But that’s me. So I just replied by thanking him and letting him know that I think we deserve to have whatever kind of wedding that we want. Bitchy? Yes. Satisfying? Yes.
I know we all have opinions, but sometimes people should really keep them to themselves!
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
Oy. People are so rude sometimes. I hate that people complain about other people’s posts on FB that are, essentially, “status updates”. It’s pretty much exactly what FB is for, right?!? Forget the haters. One of our groomsmen literally told me to my FACE that I was too good for my Fiance and he doesn’t deserve me (and he WASNT joking). People’s opinions are…..often useless.
Congrats on another thing checked off the list! It’s exciting, isn’t it?!? I’ll be glad when it’s all checked off and PAID for!! 🙂
Post # 4
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Helper bee
This is totally off the mark right here but that’s just as absurd as saying “well if you’d just kill yourself you’d never have to worry about doing anything ever again!” Like I feel it’s THAT absurd because you weren’t even complaining or anything, just like oh, one last thing, lots left to do!
But then again, you never know, some people are just bold by nature and if you’re not close to him maybe you didn’t catch this personality trait, and perhaps on his end he’s seeing lots of updates from OTHER people, and it’s a wedding overload of info for HIM. But still a weird thing to say, period. It’s like well gee, thanks for your support!
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
@morkiemama: Wow, your groomsman…eek. I am literally amazed by some people’s rudeness, but hey, you’re right. Some opinions are worthless. And thanks, it feels nice to have one more thing checked off! I was happy, which was the reason for the FB status update in the first place. Can’t wait to write that last check!
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
@yassim: Exactly! Yeah, it wasn’t that he was terribly RUDE or anything; for some reason the comment just rubbed me the wrong way. I don’t know him terribly well, but he and his wife are all about living on only what they need with no frivolous “extras”. Like, their dream is to join a commune with no modern day conveniences. Also, he and his wife dated for 2 months before they got married (basically an elopement…), and they had 2 children immediately after, so I can see how our personalities and life choices differ…but still. Oh well!
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
This guy must be single 😉 Facebook has become such a pain in the rear. Seriously. I remember when I posted wedding updates and got NO “likes” or “comments” and it bothered my husband and I. Silly, but true. Vent away!
Post # 8
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Honey bee
I read that comment as a joke, not serious.
If it had read “Well, if you’d just elope, then you wouldn’t have to worry about it. :)” would you have interpretted it differently?
Of course you know this person in real life so his personality may be the key to the real meaning.
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
@Just_Squeeze: Agree. I keep saying I need to give FB up, but it’s like some sort of sick addiction. Ha!
@lefeymw: You’re probably right; it’s funny how text is so impersonal…if the emoticon had been there, it would’ve been different.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
We all want to be validated. It’s normal.
And that’s why they invented emoticons. (Did I spell that right?). If I think my text will be taken the wrong way, I definitely include a smiley or wink, like I did above. “He must be single ;)” Meaning, he’s not planning a wedding, is he? If I wrote, “He must be single”. It would be more like bashing him for being iinsensitive and no one must want him. 😉
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
@Just_Squeeze: LOL! And btw, he’s actually married with 2 kids…see my reply to yassim 😉
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@cazian: Like, their dream is to join a commune with no modern day conveniences. Also, he and his wife dated for 2 months before they got married (basically an elopement…), and they had 2 children immediately after
Wow…
Post # 13
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Honey bee
I think it was a joke…
On the same token don’t you think you should have taken your own advice?
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
+ 1 for thinking it was a joke maybe? I would have replied in some saucy manner.
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
@vmec: I’m not sure which bit of my own advice you think I should take, but I’m sorry I’ve offended you in some way. If you’re referring to me talking about his wedding and living situation, I was using that illustratively to show why he might not agree with our use of money on a traditional wedding. I was in no way bashing him, and I have been nothing but supportive of him and his family. If your issue was with the fact that I said people should keep their opinions to themselves, then I think we’re all guilty of breaking that “rule”.
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