Post # 1
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Newbee
My FI’s mother had some teeth removed on Tuesday. I’m not sure why but that’s all I know. Today he tells me she asked him to floss her teeth for her and so he did without asking why she needed help. I can sometimes be a little cold and not used to like affection in certain ways just because of how I was raised. So sometimes I feel like their relationship is a bit odd. But three days later and she’s asking him to stick his hands in her mouth and floss her teeth for her, is that weird or is it just me? I feel like thats weirdly intimate but like I said I can be a little cold sometimes. What do you guys think?
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
It’s odd if she is completely capable of doing it herself. However, if for some reason she isn’t capable of doing it, I don’t think it’s weird at all.
Post # 3
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Newbee
hikingbride: I mean he said her gums are swollen and sensitive. That’s all. Nothing is wrong with her hands that she couldn’t use them herself to do it. That’s why I find it weird. And personally, if my gums were swollen and sensitive I wouldn’t want anyone else touching my teeth because I’m not in control of how gentle they are. It’s just the image of him standing there like inside her mouth with her mouth hanging open when she’s like mentally all there and should be able to floss herself is just weird to me. I was talking to my mom about it and she said maybe she was scared of hurting herself but again I resort back to the whole you’re not in control of the other persons actions lol.
Post # 5
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PinkQueen: I think so too but they’re a weirdly close family (in my eyes but like I previously mentioned I’m sorta cold lol). I mean her children worship the ground she walks on and kind of have no reservations/boundaries when it comes to her so I guess that’s why I’m like mmmmm it’s a bit odd.
Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
mickeyanonymouse: it could be that it has to be done and because of the sensitivity she knew she wouldn’t be able to. Plus with the pain it might just be difficult.
I mean it is easier for someone to give you an injection than to have to do it yourself even though most people could do it themselves in most cases.
Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
It is weird but people show their love and need affection in weird ways sometimes.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
thats wierd. I’ve had family members who’s bodies broke down and I increasingly leant a hand, but most adults hang onto their independence as long as they can and do not enjoy that process. asking someone to floss your teeth if youre perfectly capable seems odd. I was about to say if my mum had asked I would have said “no”, but I reckon in his shoes I would’ve done it too lol! I was very close to my mum and things like hat don’t phase me, I don’t find then icky
