Post # 1
My Fiancé and I really want to have our wedding on our ten year anniversary. Unfortunately, it happens to fall on a Monday. Have any of you ever been to a Monday wedding? Is this completely wrong and selfish? My mom is 150% against it and had even threatened to not put in a dime towards it ( she originally was putting in $5,000 and we were budgeting based on that amount).
Help! I’m having a compete panic attack because we are supposed to be booking our venue in the next little bit.
Post # 3
@sbruin99: Hmm, I don’t know. I would never do it. To be honest, I think that Friday weddings are slightly annoying because you have to take off work, etc. That is my opinion, but you have to do what works for you:)
Post # 4
@sbruin99: I’d go to a Monday wedding for my sister, or 2 or 3 best friends. Otherwise I’d send my regrets. That being said, you should have your wedding when it makes the most sense for you.
If it’s important to you to have a large turnout, and have people stay until the reception is over, Monday may not be the best choice. If the really important people can be there, and if you really want that date for sentimental reasons. Go for it.
Post # 5
Fewer people will be able to attend on a Monday–probably far fewer than would show up on Saturday. If that doesn’t matter to you, then go ahead and do it on Monday–people can always RSVP “no.” If you care more about having people attend than about the date, then do it on Saturday.
Post # 6
I don’t get out of work until 5:30 at the earliest. So if it was late enough that I could drive home, shower, fix my hair and makeup, change, and drive to the venue before I missed the ceremony, then sure.
As for it being earlier: Some people may say “Well, you could just take off work….” No. I get few vacation days and I would not be happy burning one because someone decided a Monday that was more meaningful to them was worth sacrificing the convenience of their guests. You deserve to have the wedding you want, to be sure, and no one should tell you otherwise. But you aren’t entitled to any particular person showing up. (If we were family or decently close, however, I’d still send a gift.)
Post # 7
I agree with PP that it just depends on what matters most to you. If it’s what you want, do it!
If you want a higher rate of attendance, trying not to compromise others’ work schedules of course would help. Personally I would not usually take off work for a wedding because my work is very harsh about that, so depending on how far away it was I might or might not be able to go, and I would make sure to get home at a reasonable hour for work the next day.
Post # 8
I would likely decline a Monday based on the logistics of having to take Monday, and likely at least part of Tuesday, off from work. I would go if I were very close to the person, but for 90% of the people I know, it would be a definite no right off the bat.
Post # 9
I think that’s probably the worst day to have a wedding for your working guests. :-/ Do it if it’s really important to you, but I would expect a lot of no’s. Is it worth inconveniencing all of your guests and having a much smaller turn out so you can have that specific date? That is something you will have to decide.
Post # 10
Could you compromise… do you your ceremony on Monday (privately or with a few family members) and then do a reception the following Saturday?
Post # 11
@sbruin99: I agree with your Mom. It is selfish to have it on a Monday and I think you should be more considerate of your guests and have it over the weekend. Also, if you do go ahead with a Monday wedding, then you should not be surprised if far less people attend. I would only attend a Monday wedding if I was in the bridal party, and even then I would be very annoyed and leave as early as possible after my commitments were fulfilled.
Post # 12
Would it be a possibility to do the wedding on a Monday – something small/intimate, and whomever can make it great -, and then do the reception (if you’re having one) that weekend?
I have a very flexible work schedule, so taking off a Monday would not be a big issue for me, but for those with more set schedules, I can see why it would be difficult to take off work. However, do whatever you want to do!
Post # 13
@Schatzie821: +1. i was going to suggest the same thing.
i would only attend a monday wedding of one of my immediate family members, or either of my best friends. anyone else, i would send regrets. especially if i had to travel. i’d have to pay for hotel costs, as well as taking time off of work.
Post # 14
Agreeing with others. I wouldn’t go unless I was close to you and/or there was something else that made it very convenient (ie same town, not too formal).
Post # 15
@sbruin99: I am getting married on a Monday! So obviously I think so, lol.
For us, it was absolutely no problem, BUT we are having an intimate wedding (around 18 guests). It’s a destination wedding for FI’s parents, so they’d have to take time off work anyway. For my parents and my BFF, we told them they could just come after work, but they said they thought it was a good excuse to take off of work anyway, lol.
Let’s see… grandparents are all retired, so it doesn’t matter for them.
Oh, also, we’re not having a traditional reception, just dinner, so we anticipate being done by 10 at the latest. That way people won’t be too tired for work the next day.
If we were having a more traditional wedding, I wouldn’t have done it that way. For us, though, it really wasn’t a big deal. Hopefully that’s helpful!
Post # 16
If you want nobody to attend your wedding, then it’s okay. I would NOT attend a wedding on a Monday. I got work the next day, Monday at work already wears me out, I just wanna relax at home. Unless that Monday happens to be a holiday? Unless I took the day off, but if I couldn’t take the day off, I wouldn’t go to it (unless it was some super close family like my sibling, then I’d have to take off).