Post # 16
Either way people will think it’s a shower. Personally I would not be offended by this especially since it’ll likely be very close friends/family AND the gender is different AND the last baby is now 5 years old. I would certainly bring a gift to this kind of party anyway. As long as she doesn’t register it’s all good in my books. 🙂
I would just word it:
There’s a new baby on the way for X and Y.
Or Come and join us to sprinkle Bestie X with love in honor of her new baby girl to be.
Rsvp – give your email and phone number so people can ask if she’s registered or what she needs.
Post # 17
There is really no such thing as a “sprinkle” since baby showers are not supposed to be anything more than a low key gathering of close friends and family featuring inexpensive, practical type gifts in the first place. Of course, people used to give the more signficant gifts after the baby was born. Shower gifts were little things like onesies, washcloths, and baby books. In any case, PP are incorrect. A very close friend who is moved to throw an intimate shower for a subsequent baby is, in fact, acceptable according to etiquette.
There is never any obligation to register. If people ask what your friend needs, you can always tell them by word of mouth.
Post # 18
You’re saying two things here- 1) you are throwing her a sprinkle and 2) people are expected to bring gifts to a shower. What are you hosting? Super small sprinkle where guests are close enough to the mommy to be to know what she would like or need, and the gifts are more so just a gesture? OR a shower and calling it a sprinkle justifies the event and not registering justifies the event, but really complicates the event?
ONE: Third baby for her, first for the husband. Just throw her a shower and invite friends and family from his side too as they will likely be super excited about this baby.
TWO: Plan the tiny sprinkle and send a suggested “Sprinkle Supplies” list with the invite. The list would be on the same size of paper as the invite and would simply list items the mom will need. Not brand or model specific and not detailed with quantities desired or color/ pattern etc. The list length should be the number of guests you invite plus five max. So if the guest list is 7 people, the list will include 12 items total. If the mom gets duplicates or things she doesn’t like she can take them back.
ETA: not duplicates, but too much of the same thing. The list should be filled with things that are perfectly to receive multiples of.
Post # 19
Thanks so much for all your input ladies! I think I’ll do a nice brunch and use the word of mouth regarding gifts since it probably won’t be a big guest list. I just think it’d be nice to have something for her to celebrate. I appreciate all your suggestions and opinions! You’ve given me some great ideas! Thanks again!