Post # 1
i know no matter what in the end its our decision im just curious of what some of you think of this. so a little history if some of you dont remember i was previously married for 3 years and met my hubby while i was getting divorced. i can honestly say iv never been so happy and felt so good about our relationship. well we married after a year of dating and have been married for almost 2 months. we are really eager to have children. we are doing very well financially and own a new house we just dont see what the point is in waiting.
Sams dad is very sick with cancer we both really would love to have a child before he passes. even though we dont know when that will be, it could be tomorrow or 4 years from now. i understand that no matter what he will meet our children but seeing him with the other grand kids just kills us that he might not get to hold our kids and give them kisses.
so we have some family that keeps asking us when we are going to have kids and they support us wanting to have kids soon. but then we have friends that just judge us like crazy especially me considering i got divorced just last year. they keep saying dont i want to make sure this marriage will last too. but how do i know what the future holds. we are happy..
i know i shouldnt care what other people say its my life not theres but i of course want to do the best thing for us and for our future family ya know.
iv started taking prenatel vitamins and eatting alot healthier trying to lose 10lbs before we do get pregnant. we are hoping for septemberish but who knows it could always change!
i didnt take the comments lightly when i was getting divorced of only being married 3 years. i dont like people judging me. so im worried about taking the comments of us getting pregnant after only 6 months of being married.
i guess this post is mostly just me venting and wanting someone to tell me its ok if this is what we want! 🙂
Post # 3
@rachelmarie220: Who cares what other people think. It’s not about what they are comfortable with, it’s about what you two are comfortable with.
Post # 4
Screw everyone else, its your life. You will regret it if you listen to anyone but yourself. Its about what you want in 2, 5, and 50 years. How you want your life to be, not how they want your life to be. You can’t please everyone!
Post # 5
@rachelmarie220: only you can know what is right for you – but dont let other people (especially negative people) influence what you and your husband ultimately want. I feel for you there, my parents are getting older everyday, and while i am lucky they are healthy i always think about the time they will get with my future children, most of my grandparents passed before i was able to build a relationship with them and having grandparents is something i really want my children to expereince.
it really bugs me that your friends say ” dont you want to make sure this marriage will last too.” that is just a kick in the face and rude.
you guys seem to be in the right place, and so in love and ready to start a famly together, dont let other people hold you back.
Post # 6
@rachelmarie220: You situation sounds just like mine. I divorced my ex after 3.5 years of marriage, and met my now husband while I was going through that process. We were married after a year and a half and now we are pregnant with our honeymoon baby.
I know it’s extremely difficult to “just not listen” to people when they pass judgement. But try not to let it get to you. You have your best friend as your husband and the relationship you have always dreamed of. If you two feel this is the right time for it, go for it! (Give you friends 9 months to really understand that you and your husband will last forever!)
Post # 7
You have to make the best decision for the two of you. If you are ready then GO FOR IT!
Post # 8
@rachelmarie220:Agreed. WHo cares what other people think. I have still a chunk of “friends” who think I threw my life away to get married. Then they think I’m throwing away (even more? LOL makes no sense) because we want to have kids.
People will think what they think, but you only get to live one life–yours.
Do what works for you and your husband. And learn to deal with the others.
Post # 9
If you and hubby are on the same page thats all that matters. There is never a perfect time to have children but its up to both of you(and only both of you) to decide what time is best. Other people are always going to have opinions and you change that. Its not like you have been dating for 6 months and are planning to have a baby. You took the time to get to know one another, you got married(which is a huge plunge) and now you are ready to take the next step. Go for it and disregard all the negativity.
Post # 10
if you want them go for it. At the end of the day it’s you and your hubbs decision, not theirs.
Post # 11
THANK YOU LADIES!! thats why i love you guys! so nice and understanding! and yes i agree with my friends being jerks and a kick in the face i know some of them are just jealous that im happy and they are alone and not happy! i just have to keep telling myself that ya know.