Post # 1
So our venue holds a max of 170 people. We sent out Save-The-Date Cards for about 165, leaving room for our pastor, photographer, DJ, and a couple plus ones. We told our caterer that we would be inviting that many, but we are hoping for 150. I know that not everyone will come. I’d be happy with 120-150. My fiances best man (his brother) thinks that a hand full of their family (about 6 or 7) won’t come because it’s a 3-4 hour drive for them. I figured that much, but he also named others. I can also think of some of my family and friends that may not make it as well. It’s made me think that we should consider inviting more people.
I have this scary what if only 80 people or something RSVP. I ordered 100 invitations and I ordered 90 Save-The-Date Cards and had about 5 left over. So I’ll have extra invitations to send..
Would you consider inviting more? If so, how many more?
Post # 3
Sounds like you’d be a perfect candidate for a B-list. As everyone on here will tell you, you should NEVER EVER invite more people than your venue can hold, because naturally that will cause everyone to RSVP yes and then you’ll have to uninvite people. Oops. But if you send the first set of invites out very early, most people will return them right away and as the no’s start to come in, you can send out that many invites to the B-list. The only faux pas is if the B-listers find out they’re B-listers … so make sure they aren’t close with A-listers who might mention they’ve already gotten their invite, and make double-sure they get their invites at least two weeks before the RSVP date and at least four weeks before the wedding!
Post # 4
I would hold off….you may be surprised! Our guest list was originally arond 175, and we were hoping for 150 (minimum for our venue). Then at the last minute FI’s parents added an additional 25 people, and I added in a coworker last minute. There will certainly be some no’s, but a lot of people we thought might not bother because it is out of town are planning on coming! Out of 199 invited, we have received 48 yes RSVP’s already, and only 3 no’s. Our deadline is still 3 weeks away, and tehre are several more out of state-ers that booked a hotel room but haven’t RSVPed yet so I am assuming they are a yes! If possible, maybe send your invites out on the early side (9 weeks in advance or so) and see what type of response you get, then send to more if you find you have teh room.
Post # 5
@iarebridezilla: I forgot about sending a second round. I sent our date pretty early, September 16th and our wedding isn’t until October 13th. My caterer wants a final number I think it’s a week(or maybe it’s two) before the wedding. I figured an early date would help me be less stressed out about late RSVPs.
I’m anxious so I know I’ll send them out the first or second week of August, which will be 8-9 weeks before the wedding. I don’t want to wait to long to send our the second batch. I figure if I only wait a week or two then the delay can be blamed on the post office or I can make myself sound unorganzied “Ohhh I just mailed them as I printed them….”
However, I feel like once you ask someone for their address then they figure you’re inviting them…
@candykiss: I’m so thankful that my family didn’t pressure me to invite people. My fiance was very firm with my future mother in law. We told her that one of her friends wasn’t invited so she took it upon herself to invite her to our engagement party.. knowing that I would cave and invite her to avoid feeling rude.
Post # 6
How many of the invited are from out of town? I found that most people from out of town can’t make it…
Post # 7
@lauraq123: I think a totel of ten or so.
Post # 8
I second the B list suggestion. Just be sure to change the RSVP date on that batch of invites so people won’t be offended with a late invite.
On a sidenote: our vendors did not count towards our guest count since they sit in a separate area and are at a discounted price.
Post # 9
Be cautious to only invite more if you have confirmed regrets. One of my friends didn’t receive RSVPs from several people for her wedding and instead of calling to confirm if they were planning to attend or not, she assumed they would not be attending and invited others from her “B List” in their place. She was unpleasantly surprised upon arrival at the reception to discover that many of those people who didn’t RSVP showed up and there weren’t enough tables, chairs, or meals. It was a very awkward situation, and she spent the first 20-30 minutes of her reception talking to the venue coordinator about options. The venue eventually set up additional tables and chairs (the linens did not match the custom ones she had rented, of course), but even after that, there still wasn’t enough food.