(Closed) Opinions on postponing!!!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I’m sorry you have had such a rough year. If you’re this stressed I think putting it off might be the better choice. Or having a very simple wedding or elopement. It sounds like his parents have made their position clear so hoping them to change is a bad choice. Don’t resent them for it. Any help anyone offers is a gift and it is their choice. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

catlizpenney:   Can you have a much smaller wedding now and perhaps a reception later when things have settled down?

Post # 4
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154 posts
Blushing bee

I wouldn’t hope for or rely on FI’s parents contributing money. If you are super stressed, pushing it back might be a good idea.

You could also use this as an opportunity to stretch the money you do have. I think you would be surprised what you can do with little money and some hard work. It might not be fancy, but you can have nice things for not a lot of money if you plan ahead and put in the work.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I wouldn’t hope on money, that doesn’t work in anyone’s favor. Have you budgeted the rest of the wedding? Do you kno how people will come? As a PP said, scaling back would be best, better than pushing for a more expensive wedding and easier than postponing 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Definitely suggest you scale back, consider an immediate family only wedding or elopement. No need for the big bash that no one can comfortably afford right now. It’s A LOT of money for one day, and no matter how big the party, or how many guests attend, the result is still the same. Scale back and enjoy this time 😊

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

catlizpenney:  Personally I would push the date back and give yourselves a decent amount of time to save the money. You can’t rely on others to come in and help. I wouldn’t trust them if they so easily back off and it’s not fair on your mum to try and sort that out. She sounds like she’s got enough on her plate. But I hope your fiancés parents aren’t being bossy on what is happening and when it’s happening if they aren’t going to help at all.

if you explain this to people I am sure they would understand the situation. You either have the money or you don’t, people can’t expect you to magically find the money for it. Situations change when life happens. 

Post # 8
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365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Personally I’d scale back. No matter what you’ll be married at the end of it – everything else is optional extras. Some of the nicest weddings I’ve been to are the ones with smaller budgets. You’ve got 10 months to think creatively about ways to cut costs. 

Try not to rely on others for money, it’s hard to stick with your ideas when others have contributed financially. Also as annoying as it is that they went back on what they said you need to try to stop resenting them, it’ll only harbour bad feelings and although some parents do want to helpno one has to help towards wedding costs. Try to figure out what you and your Fiance can afford on your own and stick to that. 

I’m sure you’ll have a fantastic day as you’ll be marrying your Fiance, try not to let financial worries spoil your planning process. There are lots of fantastic websites and threads on here that show how brilliant lower budget weddings can be. I’d say do some research into cost cutter measures before you decide to delay. You might find a solution that fits your original time frame. 

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