(Closed) Opinions on TTC

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: When do you think it is most appropriate to start TTC assuming there are no financial or relationshi
    As soon as you're married : (7 votes)
    17 %
    1 year out : (9 votes)
    22 %
    2 years out : (10 votes)
    24 %
    5 years out : (5 votes)
    12 %
    Other- explain below : (10 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It’s up to you, I am in grad school though so for us realistically we have to wait until I graduate and get a job, so it will prob be 5+ years.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Remember most women it takes a year to get pregnant anyway. It’s a total personal decision. Who cares what people think.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Ummm… how about whenever the eff you feel like it? I think this is one of those “those that mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind” kind of situations.

    Post # 6
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t think there is an appropriate time. As long as you guys are ready, go for it! I have a personal thing, where I want to be married at least a year before getting pregnant, so we’re going to start TTC right after our 1 year anniversary 🙂 But there’s really no rhyme or reason to my “1 year rule”.

    Post # 7
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’ve never heard of people discounting the marriage because they had kids right away. I think its a personal choice and depends on how old you are when you get married and what  your career and life plan looks like

    Post # 8
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    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Its no ones decision but yours. Only you two know the dynamics of your relationship and whats best for you guys. You will receive pleny of unsolicted advice and judgement once the kids come. People are going to make comments no matter what. FWIW, no one has to know anyways ( and I advise to not tell everyone, been there done that) that your TTC so why does it matter? When it comes to TTC, its no ones damn business. We started TTC after 6 months.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    100% your decision. If people talk, let them. If you can financially care for a child and you two are in agreement on having a child, then start TTC as soon as you feel ready. I would however wait until after you are married since you are already engaged.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    whenever you’re both comfortable and ready for that committment

    Post # 11
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I do not think that there is an all-across the board ideal time, it is different for everyone.  If someone twisted my arm and forced me to generalize, I would say I think the longer you are married first the better, but I know this is not and cannot be the case for everyone.

    Post # 12
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    4583 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I agree with the others, start trying when YOU feel comfortable and don’t worry about what others may think. I don’t think most people would find it so scandalous that you start TTC right after the wedding – heck, my mom told us we should try for a honeymoon baby!

    Post # 13
    Member
    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If you want to start once your married DO IT!!!  Your friends and family will love you and the baby no matter if it comes now or in 20 years.  The rest of the world will judge you no matter if it comes now or in 20 years!  Do what’s best for you.  I’ve got friends in every camp. 

    Post # 14
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I completely agree with everyone else. It’s totally up to you on when you want to start trying and no one else. As long as you’re comfortable and you’re both ready, get cracking!

    Post # 15
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    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I do think it’s whenever you are both ready to start a family.  I’m 28 (29 in November) and Darling Husband is 27 (28 next spring).  We are going to start the TTC process in september and were just married 2 weeks ago.  One reason is our age, another is we are just ready for it (and he was the one that brought up the convo, lol).  We’d start now but I am currently on an MS treatment thats a Class C pregnancy drug…so I have to be off for at least 3 months before we actively begin.

    Post # 16
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    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @Beluga: I swear you are my favorite poster on here. That, and everytime I see your icon I sing a wee bit of that old Rafie song in my head: “Baby Beluga in the deep blue sea…”

    Anyhow…Beluga’s right. Whenever you want.

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