Post # 1
My fiance and I are starting to find ideas for our first dance song. We’re having a duo perform our first dance song live, so we need to give them enough heads up to learn the song. I was listening to “Marry Me” by Train on the way home from work today and it’s just such a sweet song! But for some reason, I can’t get over the fact that it’s so popular. Would you have any qualms about using a popular/overused song for your first dance? I can’t tell if I’m just being weird about it.
Post # 2
Personally I wanted to use a song that meant something to US rather than just a “first dance” song. Are there any songs that are meanginful to both of you that you could dance to? If not, I dont think theres anythign wrong with using a popular song, it just feels generic to me.
Post # 3
I preferred to use a less popular song. Really, you should just go with what you love but I’d be lying if I didn’t say that, irrationally, the popularity of songs definitely played into our first song selection.
Post # 4
I agree with what someone else said about maybe trying to find a song that means something to you guys, if you can?
My fiancé and I initially had the opposite fear of yours — that our first dance song was too not-first-dancey (covers of it exist that are more typical sounding for a wedding, but we don’t like them. We like the original!) but in the end we decided to go with what means something to the two of us (Lovesong by The Cure, if you’re curious! Haha)
I think having a popular first dance song isn’t necessarily a bad thing. I just think it’s even better to have a song that has some significance to you guys as a couple, if one exists! Also, for the record, I love Marry Me! 😀
Post # 5
I walked down the aisle to that song 😍 I say go with what you love and f the haters or what’s “too popular”.
Post # 6
Pick a song that you both love. Don’t even think about popularity. After all, what is the worst case senario? Picking a popular song just means you get to hear it more often at weddings/parties/on the radio. Nothing wrong with that!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
fourthnoel : Personally I’m going with a song that is not a popular wedding song. I have the same hang up as you. I think for my the big thing was, when I checked youtube for first dance idea’s and inspiration, a lot of video’s I watched all had the same song! (All of me – John Legend sticks out in my mind).
Personally that just took some of the magic of the song away from me. So I’m going with something personal to us and our relationship instead. It’s still a hit song. Just not a popular wedding song.
Post # 8
I legit cannot remember the first dance songs of any of the weddings I’ve been to, much less how popular they were. Use the song you want.
Post # 9
I think it’s more special when you find something senimental that means something to you two as a couple. It’s okay if that’s something popular though! Personally, my fiance and I are very adamant about not playing popular songs. We are also putting together the whole DJ set song by song since we’re so specific. Our first dance song is his late father’s favorite song so it’s going to be very special for us and his family.
Post # 10
I actually remember first dance songs from weddings but it’s because they’re all songs I love. I would use it because I personally love it. We used Dan+Shay From the Ground Up and it’s popular now even though they’re newer artists. Some other ones from weddings I’ve been to:
Savage Garden- I Knew I Loved You
Ed Sheeran- Thinking Out Loud
KCI and Jojo- All My Life (multiple weddings)
Keith Urban- Memories of Us
Post # 11
I picked a song that was somewhat popular by Jason Mraz (I won’t give up). My husband actually suggested it in passing while we were considering another song. Most weddings I’ve gone to go to extremes: Either a super obscure song or a very popular song (like All My Life by KC and Jojo). Just pick something that speaks to your relationship or what you hope your marriage will be like. If it ends up being a popular first dance song, who cares? It’s your wedding
Post # 12
It generally wouldn’t bother me to pick a popular first dance song if it was a meaningful song to us as a couple and/or the words particularly spoke to me.
The exception is Ed Sheeran “Thinking Out Loud”. I really dislike that song and the minute I first heard it I knew it was destined to be overplayed at weddings forevermore! But my qualms about that are more that I don’t like the song, not its popularity.
I’ve only been to one wedding where I remember the first dance song (which was to ‘Can’t Take My Eyes off You’ and it was fab).
Post # 13
Well of course it doesn’t matter – rationally. However like you, I also would prefer to have something a bit more unique or personal. Actually I am really struggling with first dance song. I have the rest of it sorted but that seems a challenge. Possibly not helped by the fact I can’t bear the thought of having to stand there dancing / swaying with everyone watching.
I am down the aisle to Lana Del Ray Lucky ones and up the aisle to Orson Happiness. That may not be that mad but it suits us and means something to us both. I would have Nick Cave into my arms as the first dance but it is rather dreary sounding and not really something you can dance to! Difficult 🙂
Post # 14
fourthnoel : all the songs that we used are popular and have been used by others that I know in their wedding. I didn’t think anything of it. If its popular its just popular and I don’t think it really matters or should have that much weight on your decision. Go with what you love don’t worry about what’s popular of if someone has heard it before during someone else’s wedding.
Post # 15
The nice thing about a really popular song is that you might be more likely to hear it at weddings/other events in the future, and it’s fun to dance with your spouse and remember your first dance.