(Closed) Opinions Please

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
11384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You could keep the ring if you can’t afford another & want the one he bought you. Then later on down the line for an anniversary get a new diamond set in it & use the current one for a necklace or something alone those lines.

Maybe you could talk to him about it now though? Trade the diamond in for a smaller carat weight with better color/clarity.

My diamond is a J in color. But it sparkles to no end. Maybe you could go up one in color & alot in clarity for the same price as your current diamond for a smaller carat weight?

Post # 4
4419 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t recommend doing anything behind your FI’s back… If he found out you bought a different diamond, he might be hurt.  I would talk to him about it. He loves you and wants you to be happy.  Then, when it’s fiscally possible, upgrade that diamond (not the ring). Most jewelers will let you use the value of your current diamond towards another diamond. 

If you decide to upgrade, I would focus on the clarity, because a J color isn’t that noticeable. 

Post # 6
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Maybe it just needs a good cleaning? Do you have pictures? Sometimes all it takes is the right light or something for a diamond to really shine.

Post # 7
3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

What is the shape of the diamond?  I may have missed it but I didn’t see it in your post.



Post # 8
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@OpinionPlez: i have a similar problem, i love my ring, the style an all but the diamond quality isn’t good, it wasn’t expensive by anymeans but i love the ring. fi gets a like upset that he couldn’t get something more expensive. he has offered to replace the diamond in the future, but not until after the wedding so we can afford to have it done. i tell him the ring is lovely as it is, but he still grummbles that it’s not what he would have got me if he had more money to do so. i don’t know whether to dicorage this is i’m happy but with the offer of a bigger diamond…. after all i’m just a girl lol.

maybe this could be the way forward for you…. mine wil be done for my 1st anniversary if i decide to get it done. 

Post # 9
1120 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I had the same dilemma before we got married. My (then) Fiance had bought me a wedding set, but I could see black spots in the diamond. Now I’m not a big jewelry person, the set is very simple and I loved it. But the black spots bothered me and I didn’t know what to do about it.

When we were on our way to take it to the store to get it resized so that it would fit me at the wedding, I decided to tell him.

Turns out he had noticed it too and it was bothering him but he didn’t know what to do. We tried to exchange it at the store, but they weren’t being super helpful so we completely returned it and bought the same set in another store; they let him check the diamond with their special magnifier and all.

Even when the diamond is not the best clarity/color, it doesn’t mean it has to have black spots in it. There are no inclusions that can be seen in my new ring.

My friend had her ring resized and when she picked it up, it turns out they had not resized the original ring, they just gave her another one that was a better size. Turns out the new ring had black spots in the center stone as well. They returned it.

Post # 10
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You should love the ring your future husband gave you and forget what anyone else says.

Post # 11
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

The only thing that matters is if you love it, don’t change it.  It’s understandable that it’s hard sometimes to tune out other people but in the end, their opinions shouldn’t matter.

Post # 14
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d keep it until you’re in the finacial position to do otherwise. Why spend money when you don’t have any?

Post # 15
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Would you be open to any diamond alternatives to replace it with until you can afford a real diamond of the C’s you want? I know lots of people do this until they can afford the diamond they want, and no one can tell. 

Also, be open and honest with him. I believe he will understand as long as you present it well.

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