(Closed) Opinions please – Alcohol + Reception party

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you think my reason for having "no byo" fair?
    NO!!! it's not fair... why shouldn't people get completely smashed and have no memory of the night : (5 votes)
    18 %
    Yes that is fair... you are supplying alcohol so it's not like they are going without : (13 votes)
    46 %
    Monkeys and Bananas : (10 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    1251 posts
    Bumble bee

    I just can’t imagine people bringing their own, so maybe that’s why it seems like it would be weird to me.

    Maybe “We’ll provide food and drinks, all you need to do is show up.”  Would look more appropriate.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think it’s fine to ask ppl not to bring more alcohol, but I think “don’t bring any alcohol” on the invites seems a little … weird? straightforward?  I like the idea of wording it something like, “Don’t worry, we’ve got the alcohol covered this time” (a positive instead of negative statement) and then spreading the word verbally not to bring alcohol.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it’s only necessary to mention BYOB when you actually want people to bring their own.  Since you don’t want them bringing any there’s no need to mention on the invite.  if someone asks when they RSVP just tell them it isn’t necessary because you’ll be supplying the beverages.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i think it maybe taking away from the specialness of the occasion to write “No BYOB” on your wedding invite, even if it is more casual.  Can you spread this by word of mouth instead?

    Post # 10
    Member
    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I would just incorporate it into the wording like, “Join us for finger-lickin food and drinks” or something like that. Wording it “No BYO” sounds like you’re prohibiting your friends from doing something, and while you kind of are, you’re actually a. making things easier on them, and b. giving them a gift! “No BYO” also implies (at least to me) that there won’t be any alcohol at the event at all.

    Post # 12
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    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    oh how cute!!! so just you guys and the parents know?? or not even them?

    Post # 14
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    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    very exciting…do you think she’ll actually be able to keep it to herself??  she better!!

    Post # 15
    Member
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it would be easier if you just said “No need to bring anything – we are supplying all food and drinks”. That means you can’t also ask people to bring a plate, but of course if you have a few friends who offer to bring a salad or whatever you can graciously accept ๐Ÿ™‚ But otherwise I think wording it this way is best. As an Aussie I totally understand that everyone will assume BYOB (especially in younger age groups) unless you say otherwise!

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