Post # 1
Hey bees, Boyfriend or Best Friend and I are hopefully getting engaged soon. He knows I have picky taste so he wants me to pick out a ring I’ll love. He’s pretty nervous about getting the ring right so he wants me to show him an inspiration picture so that he has a roadmap to go off of when he goes to the jeweler.
The thing about it is…I’m not sure what I want yet, so I wanted to hear your opinions on the options I’m considering.
What I know for sure is that I want a colored gemstone center in my ring. However…I’m not sure whether I want a sapphire or a ruby.
Reasons I’m considering these gemstones:
- Red is my favorite color, and rubies represent qualities such as romance, love, and passion.
- September was when Boyfriend or Best Friend and I met, and sapphires represent loyalty, faithfulness, and sincerity.
Concerns about Rubies:
- Red is a very intense color and I’m concerned that a ruby ring would stand out and draw the eye too much.
- Red can be a hard color to match to other things.
Concerns about Sapphires:
- If I wore red nail polish (which I do like to wear since red is my favorite color), I feel like I’d look like the 4th of July. I recently saw a woman wearing a blue sapphire and diamonds with red nails and I immediately thought “4th of July.”
- My family thinks blue gemstones are bad luck (I’m not superstitious though).
- I wonder which gemstone (ruby or blue sapphire) would go with a greater number of outfits.
- I have a feeling that the answer to this would be the sapphire, because the red is intense, but I do like my red and therein comes the 4th of July concern.
- I know Sapphires look really good in white metals, but I really like rose gold, and I would consider setting a blue Sapphire in rose gold. Rose gold doesn’t really work for Rubies IMO.
- Sapphires are the gemstone that is traditionally used for engagements, right? I know this is a silly concern, but I do want people to know I’m engaged, and I feel like that could be more likely if I had a Sapphire.
- At the same time I don’t want to choose my gemstone because of this concern, but it does factor into my decision somehow.
I feel like when I consider all the factors, I’m stuck at 50/50 and can’t make up my mind! But I do think it is important for me to choose the gemstone for my ring, because it has such a big impact on the look of the ring, so I would prefer to come to a decision instead of asking Boyfriend or Best Friend to choose for me.
Given everything I listed out, which would you choose? Am I missing any concerns?
Additionally, which of these styles do you all like best? These are the styles I am considering (my ring will be smaller though).
#1. Sapphire Halo
#2 Sapphire 3-Stone
#3 Ruby Halo
#4 Ruby 3 Stone
Thank you for taking the time to read this and give advice…I really appreciate it!
P.S. The formatting looks weird for this post but I’m not sure how to fix it. Sorry!
Post # 2
I have a sapphire engagement ring. I love it. I’ve always wanted a sapphire and while I considered other gemstones for awhile, I always came back to the sapphire.
Quite frankly, I think you are WAY over thinking this. I literally never think about matching my outfit to my ring. I had red nails for my wedding and didn’t think fourth of July. My aunt has a ruby engagement ring and it’s not especially eye-catching (it’s beautiful but doesn’t draw the eye more than any other engagement ring). Diamonds are so common for engagement rings these days that you run the risk of people not recognizing your gemstone engagement ring as an engagement ring no matter which gemstone you go with.
To me, it sounds like you like rubies more than sapphires because red is your favorite color. So I would go with a ruby. And I think rubies can look gorgeous in rose gold rings.
And because I love sharing my ring here it is:
Post # 3
You are definitely overthinking this. Get the one you like the most. Sounds like you like red the best. So get a ruby. Matching your ring to your outfit is not a thing. As for the halo vs three stone, that’s also completely your preference. This isn’t like a wedding dress where some styles look better on body types than others. It’s purely what you want.
PS. Your family should tell the British royal family that blue gemstones are bad luck. I’m “sure” princess Catherine would really agree with her amazingly beautiful sapphire ring.
Post # 4
I think you’re both right that I am overthinking it! I’m putting a lot of pressure on myself for this to be THE ring. But maybe that’s not fair to expect. I like jewelry a lot.
Maybe the best option would be to go try on rings again. Red is my favorite color, but I’m really drawn to the idea that blue sapphire could represent our relationship since we met and started dating in Sept and that’s a very romantic idea in my mind. 🙂
Truth be told…I want one of each!
chocochai : Lol! You know, my mom thinks part of the reason that Diana and Charles had an unhappy marriage was because of the blue sapphire. Crazy but true!
hikingbride : Your ring is lovely! I love that shade of blue.
Post # 5
I read somewhere that the ruby was a popular choice before diamonds became the norm. Also, sapphire & rubies are both gems of the mineral corundum. It sounds like you prefer the ruby, so I think you should choose that one. I think it would be lovely in rose gold. A random photo I found on Pinterest.
Post # 6
I like #4 with the ruby.
I think you should go with what you love which sounds like rubies. Blue vs red isn’t going to make a difference for outfits. Sometimes my sapphire matches my outfit and sometimes it doesn’t…but it doesn’t ever seem out of place because it’s something that doesn’t have to coordinate to that extent. Don’t pick something because you are concerned how others will see it…diamonds are the main go to for ering anyhow so regardless of ruby/sapphire…it’s not going to make a difference. Most people aren’t going to pay attention to your ring anyhow besides close family when you first announce engagement.
So, go for what you love.
Post # 7
This isn’t mine but I think rose gold looks great with rubies:
Post # 8
I personally prefer the red stones but that’s because I hate blue.
Post # 9
slomotion : Actually, rubies and sapphires are both corundum and thus the same hardness on the Maid/Matron of Honor scale.
Post # 10
While I love both, and my original wedding rings had blue sapphires (as is my own family’s tradition) I do lean a little more towards liking rubies myself (especially in yellow or peachier rose gold). Not only are they my birthstone, but the right warm ruby goes far better with my colouring than a blue sapphire (and I just tend to be drawn to warmer tones over cooler ones).
I think rubies look beautiful in rose gold, I would aim for maybe an 18k rose gold or peach gold.
My personal views with matching…engagement rings and wedding rings are one of those things that go with everything, become sort of part of “you”, and don’t have to be “matchy matchy” ever.
I like both the chunkier halo setting (like the first sapphire halo, or the first ruby halo), and the three-stone with traps. Though I do like the chunkier halo a bit more 🙂
Both rubies and sapphires are corundum, so same on the MOHS scale (for hardness) at a 9.
Post # 11
From your post it sounds like you prefer rubies!
One of my most favorite rings is a ruby set w rose gold…lemme find you a pic…at Angara.com:
Post # 12
It would look dreamy in yellow gold too!
I love both gemstones you mention so I’d just say to go with what you love the most.
Post # 13
MissMarple : I think you should have the gemstone you like the best – as in, when you look at it you love it. Outfits are changeable and it’s “just” a ring – no one will pay too much attention to it, besides you. And the most important thing is that YOU love it!
Also, I just wanted to point out that sapphires come in all colors (actually, I read somewhere that a ruby is in fact a red sapphire, but I dont know if this is true), so really you can choose whatever color you like 🙂
And last thing: I think rose gold would go with either of them! Get the one you love – it’s YOUR ring 😉
Post # 14
Oh oh what about something like this? It’s on Etsy, the vendor is called HeartofWater I think, another Bee (was that you @RayKay?) recommended this on another thread and it’s been on my favorites ever since:
Post # 15
MrsHarryDresden : Yes that was me! It is a beautiful set – simple but elegant