Post # 1
Just looking for opinions! I tend to have strong initial reactions then calm down, so I’m wondering if this is the same situation.
I’m part of a wedding of a friend, but none of the bridal party knows each other very well. We’re throwing her bridal shower together. I’m hosting it at my house, but we’re all contributing. The MOHs did the invites and I just got it in the mail. It doesn’t say who is throwing the shower but does include both of the MOHs names for RSVP (why both?). I showed it to my husband to gauge his reaction and he said it seems like they’re the only ones hosting it.
I really believe they just didn’t know that it’s customary to put who is hosting, but it still gets on my nerves!
Would you be upset?
Post # 3
I would look at an invitation like that and think that those were the people handling RSVPs, not necessarily that they were the only ones hosting it. How many other bridesmaids are there? If it’s only the three of you, then it would have been polite to include your name. If there are more, then I wouldn’t think it was a big deal.
Post # 4
No. The invites for my bridal shower only listed my Maid/Matron of Honor for the contact and didn’t say anything about who was hosting. I’m pretty sure everyone knew who was hosting because they all pitched in during the shower.
TBH as a Maid/Matron of Honor I wouldn’t have even thought about it. How many BMs are there? If there are more than 3 it seems ridiculous to list everyone out. If it is just you 3, I’m sure it will be really obvious that you are hosting as well since it’s at your house.
Post # 6
Thanks, ladies! There are 6 of us…my social circle has always included hostesses — “Please join Joan’s bridesmaids in….” so it’s good to hear that others don’t.
We’ve had a lot of trouble planning things (they want to make the shower potluck from the guests, I can’t stand the idea, esp since it’s at my house) so I know I’m probably being totally sensitive.
Post # 7
@MrsBeck: +1 mine say MOH’s name and not the host’s, because Maid/Matron of Honor is the one handling RSVP’s. if I got an invite I would just assume that was who was organizing RSVP’s, not hosting the shower.
Post # 8
I might be a little upset, however if you are sure they just didn’t know it was wrong to leave you out I would shake it off and not let it bother you… I am sure since its in your home and you will great people and likely lead alot people will become aware you are the hostess