Post # 32
I wasn’t a “waiting” bee because I was CERTAIN my Fiance was NO WHERE near able to afford a ring for me, but that doesn’t change my opinion..
It seems like she knows a ring is coming soon and she will most definitely wait for it every day on that vacation, as many, many disappointed bees have before.
Just be honest with her – tell her it’s coming soon, but definitely not on vacation and you don’t want it to ruin the vacation if she doesn’t get it, but that you’re planning something super sweet and romantic for the proposal and you didn’t want to be cliche and propose on vacation, you just want to enjoy your last vacation as a bf/gf before you embark on your journey as an engaged, and then married couple… or something like that.
Post # 33
Just wanted to follow up since everyone was so helpful. I did tell her it wasnt going to be on vacation and she has since told me she really appreciated that I did as she could just focus on the fun vacation. Well after we got bsck just before the 4th of July the ring arrived. With a bit of help from her best friend I was able to propose yesterday afternoon after a fun little picnic (despite the blistering heat)… she said yes 🙂 neither of us could be happier.
Thanks again to all who gsve advice and/or responded to my poll it was really wonderful to have all of the input.
Post # 34
@mr52: aww that is really sweet, congratulations!
Post # 35
From reading these boards I can honestly say that there is more stress caused by waiting for proposals than there is in planning a wedding so please, tell her you aren’t going to propose on this vacation.
You can put a totally positive spin on it – make it clear that you have every intention of proposing and that the reasons for not being able to do so on vacation are nothing to do with lack of intention – but don’t leave her hoping, fruitlessly, for something that isn’t going to happen.
Apart from anything else, you aren’t really going to enjoy yourself if every day ends with a certain sense of disappointed expectations are you?