Post # 1
Ok, I need you guys to talk some sense into me. My husband is a contractor with the military and we just finished him being deployed for a year (he got back in November, we married in January). He signed up for another year and leaves in a month.
Today he was offered an opportunity to live in Germany for 6 months (with 8-5 hours), and deploy to Afghanistan for the other 6 months. It’s a 2 year commitment. And I just can’t get on board with this for some reason. I would live in Germany full time, doing, and here’s the thing- I don’t even know! I cant figure out what I would do with myself over there (probably couldn’t get a job). I don’t speak the language, I wouldn’t know anyone, and we would be far from any of the major cities. I’m scared that if I go to Germany, I will be lonely and depressed and resentful.
The other issue is that last week I got promoted at my job. I am on track to make a career. If I went to Germany, I would be giving that up. I wouldn’t have to work over there (heck, I don’t really need to work now). I’m excited for me- that I’m accomplishing things too.
But I want to be spontaneous and adventurous! We’d be able to travel! I love traveling! It’d be an experience! So why am I so scared!? Why can’t I say yes?
Could you guys drop your friends and careers and go live in a foreign country (and only have your sweetie for half the time).
Post # 4
you know you don’t have to go with him. FH almost went to Germany too but ended up considerably closer in TX. I have automatic promotions for the next few years so we’re doing the long distance thing. It’s not that bad and since you’ll be doing long distance for part of it anyway (and have done it before!), you really shouldn’t feel like you have to give up everything and go there with him – maybe an extended visit? I wouldn’t pick up and move though just for a 6 month to 1 year stint
Post # 5
This is such a personal decision, but if it were me, I would seriously consider it and most likely do it. Traveling is one of my all time passions and living abroad has provided me with some of the best most valuable, exciting, life changing experiences of my life. If I had the opportunity to move abroad with my fiance, especially if it was something he really wanted to do, I probably would. I understand that it would be super hard to leave your career (as well as temporarily leave your family and friends) but I think it’s worth considering. Germany is a fantastic country, and I’m sure there are many other wives in a similar situation that you would make friends with.
Post # 6
I moved to Germany with my then Fiance for 2 years. It was depressing at times, but would I go back and change it- no way! I never learned German, didn’t need it! The food there is AWESOME! and the chances to travel were amazing and yes it was hard, often, but I wish I had been even more positive and I would do it again in a heart beat.
Post # 7
@phxgal10: A friend of mine had an opportunity to work with a teaching organization (they operate boarding schools for missionary kids I believe) as a receptionist. She didn’t know ANY German (that’s where she is, as well), and she’s having a great time 🙂 You’ll pick it up so fast if you’re living there, and perhaps you can find a job like she did where they are willing to employ non-German speakers, or as an English teacher or something where speaking English would be a bonus!
Post # 8
Omg are you crazy? I would give anything to go live in Germany for a while. You only live once and this world is big and beautiful and not everyone gets to travel and see it all. Put things in perspective like that and just go with it.
Post # 9
My husband and I might end up there some day. I know a few people who lived on the bases there and loved it. I think you will probably be okay not knowing the language, my family and I have traveled quite a bit and a lot of other countries speak English.
I would consider it honestly. Start looking for jobs there. There are the same jobs over there. You might also be able to get on at one of the Army bases.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
Post # 10
Personally, I would absolutely take the opportunity to live in Germany for 3 years! I think it would be such an adventure and so much fun.
I started a thread about living/moving internationally last week and many Bees commented that they are already doing this. Maybe you could PM some of them and learn more about their experiences to help make your decision. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/would-you-be-willing-to-movelive-internationally
Post # 11
I think your situation is really challenging because you have a job and a career that it sounds like you love already. If the job weren’t something you felt was a big part of your identity, I’d say go for it, but letting go of your dreams in exchange for “right now” travel is a difficult decision.
I did live in Germany for a year and I loved it, though, so I would highly recommend that experience 🙂 Fiance and I were long-distance for the year (we were not engaged then) and I missed him, but it was so worth it. I was in Munich and I got to spend time in Berlin and Dresden, and then spent a couple months traveling (Norway, Belgium, Switzerland, the Czech Republic, Italy, Luxembourg, the Vatican…) which was just incredible. I want to go back!