(Closed) Opposite of Shrinkage

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

if your on your third ering already I think you care too much about what others think and now you dont even know what YOU like anymore. boo

Post # 5
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Susanlee178:  Seeing how I now live in your same area,  I can tell you that 1ct is not really considerd “big” here. It’s average really. Average stone sizes have really gone up and up since your mother or step-mother have gotten married. My mother got married with a diamond chip and has upgraded since then to a 3 stone marquise ring 2ctw. My grandmother got married with a plain band and now sports a .75 solitaire. (They both live in this area too). My cousin that lives here and just got married has a 2ct emerald cut solitaire. My sister got married back in 2008 and has .5 marquise center with a huge halo…about 1.5ctw if I had to guess. My center stone is a 1ct and when I asked the jeweler what the norm is around here and they said for young people it is 1/2ct but couples near my age (I’m 30) it’s at least a 1ct.

Post # 6
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Susanlee178:  I get what you’re saying. Mine is 0.6 ct and I sometimes wish it was a bit smaller. I wish I had gone for something 0.3-0.5ct in a detailed setting rather than 0.6 in a solitaire. Oh well! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
4436 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Susanlee178:  Lol I don’t think you need therapy! People’s perception of their rings can change, but yes usually shrinkage is the more common route! Forget what anyone else says or thinks- you love it so that’s all that matters:)

Post # 8
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Glad to hear your hand / finger is doing better… I am to assume then that they got the ring(s) off in one piece.

Ok… the matter at hand (pun intended)

In truth not everyone wants a big showy Diamond… some of us are quite happy with smaller… especially if it is a matter of QUALITY over Quantity

That definitely is my take on Diamonds.

I sport a 0.80 Feature Diamond, in a Setting of 1.04… so I am just under the 2 CTW.


We could have used Mr TTR’s ERing Budget and I could have gotten a much bigger Feature Diamond… or something more showy… but it truly wasn’t me (us)

I am far more of a classic girl… I was looking for a more “timeless” sort of ring than what is trending right now

And from the description you’ve given of your rings it sounds like you are similar that way

Nothing wrong with that.

In reality, they say the average Diamond ERing Feature Stone is 0.50 or less (my First Wedding circa 1980, and my Diamond was really tiny)

So ya a 2.0 or 1.0 single stone is considered large in many areas, and by many people.

I also knew that when I went shopping with Mr TTR this time, he encouraged me to try different sizes… I tried on the 1 Carat (which was my max)… but I just couldn’t bring myself to wear anything that big.  Going in I was pretty sure I wanted something around 0.50… cause to me after my first ERing that was HUGE.  In the end we compromised and I went for the 3/4 Carat, and I love it.

BUT it has its own set of issues… unlike my first Marriage this ERing requires a lot more care… and I am far more aware that it attracts attention (and not always in a good way).  So I am thankful that I didn’t go any larger.

On WBee we hear a lot about the Bees who are anti-Diamonds, those that are thrilled to have any Diamond, and the Gals who Rock the BIG ONES… but there aren’t a lot of posts about the girls like you and I who are content with the “Happy Medium”

Hope this helps,


Post # 9
1173 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2002

I think it’s refreshing to read this post.  It sounds like you are very humble.  Maybe just give the 1 carat bezel a little more time?  I usually read just the opposite, always wanting bigger (and yes, I’m as guilty as can be, lol).  

Post # 10
452 posts
Helper bee

@Susanlee178:  To be blunt, who cares what the guy who does your nails thinks? ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s only your opinion that matters!

And if this is all you have to worry about, my dear (other than the hand…get well soon!) you live a charmed life.

Post # 11
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think you should get what makes YOU happy, who cares what other people think? If you want a smaller stone get a smaller stone! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 13
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Susanlee178:  I think it is so sweet that you feel this way! It seems like you’re a super humble person who feels uncomfortable with getting attention. Just remember that everything is a matter of perspective. I definitely don’t think that 1 ct is too big! You should try and remind yourself that your ring is a SYMBOL of your husbands love and commitment to you. Everything else – size, color, shape, setting etc, are just small minor details. No matter how “big” it is ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 15
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley

@Susanlee178:  I too have experienced the opposite of shrinkage.  I’ve only had my ring for about 5 months, but it looks bigger to me now than when I got it.  I absolutely LOVE my ring and I catch myself staring at it all the time…yet there are times, especially when I’m around people with smaller rings, that I try not to bring attention to it.

My girlfriend has a center stone the same size as mine (1.5c) and less than a month after she got married she was already talking how much smaller it looks and wanting a bigger one.  My cousin got engaged a month ago & is ticked off that he “only got her a 1.5 carat solitaire, when [she] specifically asked for a 2-3 carat stone”.  She calls it her “tiny tiny”, doesn’t wear it all the time, and has said she’s upset that mine looks bigger than hers.  (Hers is cushion, mine is RB).  I’m shocked when I hear these comments.

Post # 16
4287 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I have heard of this “reverse shrinkage” but have never experienced it, lol.   I think you should wear what is comfortable for you though!  And hand onto the others… one day, when you are older and everyone is upgrading, you will be all set.  ๐Ÿ˜‰

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