Post # 1
Curiosity question–Would you be okay with your significant other having a friend of the opposite sex and same sexual orientation stay overnight with them alone in a shared room (i.e., hotel room or studio apt) while you were not there? And even if you weren’t comfortable with it, would you be supportive and say that it’s okay to do anyway?
Post # 3
Not a chance. And I would say that – I wouldn’t pretend I was okay with it.
Post # 4
Heck no. And if I’m not comfortable with something there is no way I am saying its okay to do it anyway. We are very open and honest with each other and accespt each others boundaries. If I said I wasn’t comfortable with it Fiance wouldn’t do it even if I said go ahead, its okay. I believe its important to always listen to your gut and if that isn’t a situation that you aren’t comfortable with don’t play it off like it is.
Post # 5
Not ok. And he wouldn’t even try; he knows it is not ok… this is how we started off, and HE is the one who always says that no man wants to sleep in the same room as someone “just as friends”…
Post # 6
Oh huh uh! There is no way in heck I would even be able to remotely put up the pretense that I was okay with it lol. On the other hand he wouldn’t even ask because he know I would flip a b**** haha
Post # 7
In no way, shape or form would this be acceptable to me.
Post # 8
I’m okay with it because I know all of his friends…they are pretty much mine too, especially the girls. But If I wasn’t okay with he, he would know! don’t pretend you’re not!
Post # 9
No! And no, I wouldn’t pretend it was okay.
Post # 10
No definitely not. Maybe if it was like a group of friends kind of thing…maybe…but not just the two of them.
Post # 11
No. No, no, no, no, no. And he would know it. Honestly, he’d never even ask. I can’t even imagine any reason on EARTH he’d want to spend the night in a room with another woman. I also can’t imagine a situation in which that would be necessary. It doesn’t matter how much I trust my husband, and it doesn’t matter how much I trust whatever hypothetical woman he’d be sharing with. There are just some things that are never appropriate.
Post # 12
Hell no. I’m not cool with my husband spending the night with another woman, no matter what the context is.
Post # 13
Nope, I dont think I’d be ok with it, and even if I could be, he does not think it’d be appropriate.
Post # 14
It depends.. One of our mutual friends has slept in his apartment before because we didn’t want her to have to drive home (hour and a half) in the middle of the night.
On the other side – Fiance knows I’ve shared a bed (a few times during our relationship) with my gay BFF and he doesn’t care.
I think it really depends on the circumstances. If the situation arose and I was not 100% comfortable with it I would say NO and Fiance would respect my wishes.
Post # 15
NOPE! I would be completely against it and vocal about it!
Post # 16
i am a definite NO! i don’t even pretend to be that secure, lol. i was going to suggest you put a poll, but so far it seems pretty unanimous.