- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
hello all. I am new here and I need a little advice.
So my fiancee and I are getting married on 10/18/2015. I recently started a new job bc it is good money and my fiancee is a store manager. Well today I found out my permanent schedule at work (i work in a call center and our job is based on a preference ranking or seniority). My fiancee works 5am-3pm M-F which has him getting up at 3:30am every morning he works. My new schedule is 12:45-9:15 Monday, Tuesday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday…..so basically when we are married we wont have a day off together…and the days I am off I will see him around 4pm till he falls asleep which is usually 9:30pm (so 5 1/2 hours there x 2 days). and the days that he is off we will see eachother from 8am- till noon ( 4 hours x 2) .. the days we both work we will only see eachother sleep.
I have had a hard time today trying to wrap my head around how we are going to make this marriage work as newlyweds only seeing eachother a total of 19ish hours out of a whole week. I have been so emotional over this today. We have decided to be “traditional” not living with eachother at all throughout our relationship so far so .. when we get married this will be the first time we ever live together.
I asked him today what he thought about my new schedule..if he thought i should possibly find another job with another schedule beforehand and he thinks i should stick out the schedule and we will “make it work”. He feels the money will be good for us bc I do make great money and he does as well…actually he makes wayyy more money than i do. He feels like it will give us a good year to save money and pay off bills our first year of marriage so we can buy a house.
my schedule can’t be changed at the center I work at bc I got hired in when they were doing shift bids and because I am one of the lowest on the totem pole I got stuck with one of the least desireable schedules.
though I am not looking forward to not seeing my newlywed husband…i will stick it out and see how it goes. Soooo I was hoping for some advice on those that are in the same boat on how to make it work… how to look on the bright side….
I really never thought my marriage would start off like this. i am used to working 9-6 throughout our relationship thus far with same days off. so please… help me with some ideas and hopefully some encouragement.