(Closed) Opps, I did it again!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: The ring you were proposed to with wasn't "the ring", you:
    Kept it and said nothing : (9 votes)
    36 %
    Had a discussion about it, went shopping together & I now have my dream ring : (16 votes)
    64 %
    Faked a mugging, got the insurance money & I now have my dream ring : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    6215 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    Just tell him afterwards that he did a good job, but for practical reasons you would like to change the setting

    Post # 5
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    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I had to tell my husband that I wasn’t a fan of the band that he picked, it was matching and I wanted rose gold. You have a better reason for wanting a new ring, I just wanted a different look.

    I too, was super nervous about telling him because he gets his feelings hurt really easily.I just said “Babes, I love the band you got me, it is so beautiful, but it isn’t exactly what I pictured for my wedding set. How would you feel about exchanging it for something really similar but rose gold?” and of course I threw in the whole “If you really don’t want me to that’s fine, I know you put a lot of thought into what you got me!”.

    He was a little sad about it but in the end agreed that he would rather me have something I love then just wear something because he got it for me.

    I think with your reasons for wanting a different ring it shouldn’t be a big deal. I would just try to pick out another ring that has some of the same qualities so he still feels like you loved the ring he picked out.

     

    Post # 6
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    2287 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    Just be an adult. Tell him the ring is beautiful and you’re so happy to be getting married but that you’re worried you’ll break it because of your job and you’d like a different setting. He might be sad that the ring he picked wasn’t perfect (because it’s an incredibly nerve-wracking thing to do) but in the end he’ll want you to have a ring you love and are comfortable with. Just put your big girl panties on and talk to him once you’re engaged. I’d give it a week, afterwards though. That way it’s not like a rejection.

    Post # 8
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    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MrsBudz2Bee:   I would NOT tell him its not the ring for you….I would just get myself a plain ring for at work…in fact I have a fancy ring but have just purchased 2 stand in rings for if we travel or swimming or whatever…I would think he took a lot of time to pick your ring and it would hurt his feelings…what I did before we got engaged was to make sure that I told him that I would like to chose my own ring because I definately did not want a traditional ring…he thought it was a bit odd and definately thought my choice of ring was odd too!…If however he had already bought me a ring I would have never said anything…

    Post # 9
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    4663 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @MrsBudz2Bee:  I hope that by the time he proposes, the ring is still within returnable timeframes. that would be my only concern. 

    Post # 11
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    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Before he gives it to you could you point out a friends’s ring, something on TV, magazine picture and give him a big hint saying something like, “Chrissy’s ring is so beautiful, but the stone being so high would knock into everything at work for me.”  Depends on how he is with subtly.  

    I sent the link to the Fiance and watched him buy it and even check the process time last night, because I am also picky!

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